3/31/2008

My favorite is operated...

My favorite Eskil, the dog, became operated today. My mom and youngest brother drove him here this morning. There is an "animal's hospital" in the town where I live which is fairly good it sounds. He had "gravel" in his bladder. And this caused the bleeding. Now they are going to analyze what sort of stones he had, so mom knows with what forage she shall feed him in the future, and what she shall avoid.

Knowing he is here... I would want to drive there to see him!

April 1: Reflection that has struck me since I wrote this posting yesterday (this is definitely no April-joke, but really serious! :-)). It’s ok to write about ones favourite if it is a dog or a (small) child that is ones "love"? It’s ok going out in public with that? At least for me?

It’s ok to lavish tenderness, affection and love on a (small) dog? Yes, he has given so much joy... I hope he will continue doing that!

And a dog can give permission to play to one, as this small dog does. To play and laugh with him.

But is it ok to lavish tenderness, affection and love on another human being, if that human being isn’t a child?

3/30/2008

The problems with defences…

pictures from today's walk.
Spontaneously: A lot of thoughts (and emotions) on the walk I have just returned from. Eskil is still peeing blood… It is not fun mildly said. And maybe this is also triggering things… Experiences?

Addition in the evening: Chose the title to this posting very quickly... Maybe I should have chosen another? But there is so much in my head and mind now...

I also came to think of people denying their needs, thoughts triggered by a posting I did on my other blog this morning. Also a posting I have thought of writing a long time. Having everything in check and control, and maybe also looking down on other people, “weak”, dependent ones… There is a psychiatrist here David Eberhard whom has written a book “In the safety addictions-land”. He means that it can be too much safety and security! Till it becomes an addiction!

These denying their needs are often (but not all??) resonating in terms of:

“I can manage! (why can’t you then too?) What weakling are you!”

And this is plainly said contempt for weakness?? Contempt for the small child one was once?? See Bosch on the Primary Defence. And on the False Power Denial of Needs, False Power Anger – and False Power Hope…

Women often resort to False Power Hope Defence and adds it with False Power Denial of Needs Defence she means… They (we) think they (we) can change the state affairs and this can be added (and is often added) with denial of needs, we think the more we can deny our needs the better, the we will get love. The less needy they (we) are the more respected they (we) become – they (we) think at least!?? In general. But she underlines that this is a generalization and that there are (a lot of) exceptions.

And men generally combine Denial of Needs with False Power Anger, which gives them a (false) sense of strength, a strength they don’t need in the present situation (most often), but needed to defend themselves with as small boys to survive (and not experience how vulnerable and power and helpless they were then, denying this fact with a belief of, false, power, a power the small boy actually didn't have, but as he grown up man now most often have).

But denial of needs doesn’t mean one doesn’t have any needs and what's more important that the person doesn’t act on his/her needs? Trying to fill them in different ways, but maybe this is more or less hidden or visible/invisible both to themselves but also to others?

Unfulfilled needs which have become, what Stettbacher calls them, perverted?

And filling these perverted needs are always (more or less) harmful? And the ones that are denying them the most are causing most harm?? The less aware are causing most harm? The ones most in Denial causes most harm? Or the ones most in denial and with most power cause most denial? And maybe these persons also need power the most to defend themselves? And need exercising power most, need having power the most to hold the truth away?

Yes, psychohistorians are right about backward psychoclasses here?

And the ones admitting to their needs or who got their needs filled the most as children, or wo have been able or got help processing their early history the most and best, are causing less harm and don’t have to fill their needs through other people?

The worse is though when one tries to fill ones early unmet and denied needs through children (ones own or other people’s) and the ones under in power or less strong. Compared to filling them through other grown up people equal to oneself...

See earlier postings on authoritarianism.one of my favourites, picture taken 4 hours ago.

3/29/2008

Bewitched...











From the ballet "Trolltagen" (or"Bewitched") in Storforsen, Pite river, Älvsbyn. I have been here, but haven't seen this ballet.

A child has hundred languages but is robbed of ninety-nine…

I wrote a blogposting on my other blog, a posting I have thought of writing for quite a long time. About a dancer and dance-pedagogue Eva Dahlgren, 92 years, who introduced “child-dance in school” in Sweden 30 years ago (see this link about such an "activity" that looked very nice). I am interested in dance too. I have danced ballet one year when I was 9, and jazz dance as grown up. And accompanied dance when we introduced it at my work-place a little more than 15 years ago. I sew between 12-15 ballet-skirts then, they are still used I think...

On one of the pictures I linked it stood:

Kroppen som talar.

  • Inifrån det egna jaget
  • Känslomässiga upplevelser
  • Att förstå andra
  • Kroppsliga erfarenheter
  • Utvecklar medfödda och grundläggande förmågor
  • Stimulerar känslo- och tankemönster.

Translated it would be something in the style:

The body which speaks.

  • From the own self
  • Emotional experiences
  • To understand other people [one way, among (many) other, in processing things?]
  • Bodily experiences [expresses what we have experienced?]
  • Develops inborn and fundamental, basic faculties, powers, capacities.
  • Stimulates feelings and thought patterns.

But it's probably not easy (and sometimes not even possible) for children to enjoy dancing or expressing themselves? I can have experienced this too. But my activities were many times about survival??? Fantasizing and doing things...

I came to think about Reggio Emilia a “school-system” created after WW II as a reaction to what happened then and to avoid something similar to occur (if I remember right)?

Their idea is that:

"A child has a hundred languages but is robbed of ninety-nine. Schools and culture separate the head from the body, they force you to think without a body and to act without a head. Play and work, reality and imagination, science and the fantastic, the inside and the outside, are made into each other’s opposites.”

The body, body and facial expressions (and dance) is one way in expressing one’s self… Music is another. Painting and drawing are other expressions. We also have words, language, tone of voice… But we have a brain, intellect, intelligence too!! And thoughts, feelings, emotions, fantasy, imaginations...

I was interested in the school subjects (learning things etc.), and in all artistic expressions I think, not only music, but also dancing (I have been singing in choir since I was child, but am no "choir-person" strikes me, despite I sang in choir as child already, the only one of my siblings!!), theater, drawing/painting, writing, sewing, creating things with my hands... The only thing I haven't really devoted myself to is athletics!!! But I rode all my teens almost every day (as we had three ponies). And I had strong legs and a good VO2-max!! But something made me unsure in my body?? If it wasn't about dancing!? And today I enjoy walking (with poles), cycling, and things like "Friskis&Svettis" doing exercise to music (also see here) and if I had had the opportunity it would be fun to dance (jazz, ballet) or riding horses...

Aren't they cute???

I have also thought of writing about hypochondria (more or less severe)...

3/28/2008

More about the success and failure of primal therapy...

spring picture: bumblebee (humla) - a social insect?!

Have been to the veterinary after lunch (3 hours) with a dog peeing blood... And in the morning I drove mom to the General Practitioner for test-taking. My youngest brother borrowed her car and she didn't want to drive another ones car.

Yesterday when we were to town we took my youngest brother's car, a four-wheel driven Subaru, fairly new (fun to drive :-))... When we parked at the market garden (handelsträdgård) I couldn't pull the key out of the ignition lock!!! There we stood! I had to phone my brother in Stockholm!!! He sounded a bit irritated, as I was the most stupid of the stupid! "Have you pushed?" he asked. "Pushed??" I thought for myself "But one use to pull!??" And he added "I haven't time more!" I got the key out (yes, one should push it first and then pull!!) and we could lock the car and leave it!! Watch this market garden! Or this! Both in Stockholm.

I am a bit tired after everything! The worries for the cute dog...

I was tipped about this article, thought it was interesting, “The Success and Failure of Primal Therapy: a Critical Review” by Stephen Kamsi. This posting is NOT short!! The original article was longer...

Addition March 29: this article was published 1988. And the book referred to by Tomas Videgård came already 1984. And Vikegård seem to be active here in Sweden still, as teacher for therapists in training!! See link to this in the text below.

“Primal theory and object relations theory are in agreement that infants become neurotic because of ‘defective relationships,’ not because of asocial drives (p. 4). This is the basis for Videgard's dichotomy between the drive-oriented and the trauma-relations oriented perspectives (p. 9)./…/

In discussing the various disciplines that comprise the trauma-relations perspective, Videgard (1984a) notes that 'they all seem to participate in a common cause against traditional psychoanalytic drive-explanations and for the uncovering of the more or less subtle traumatization processes that, according to them are the real agents in creating neuroses' (p. 4). Neuroses, then, results more from environmental influences, especially human relations and psychological traumas, than from the frustration of instinctual drives./…/

[Videgårds critique of Primal Therapy:]

Videgard (1984a) credits Janov with sensitizing the psychotherapeutic community to the subtleties of childhood trauma and with developing effective expressive techniques, but hastens to add that the consistent application of Janov's 'discharge model' leads to therapy failures. Videgard argues that primal theory is insufficient and needs to be replaced (p. 296).

Primal theory, according to Videgard (1984a), is misguided with respect to human relationships. Primal theory suffers from an inadequate and underdeveloped model of personality development (p. 293), and Primal Therapy lacks an appropriate therapist-patient relationship Videgard, 1984a (p. 287).

The therapeutic relationship, in Janov's opinion, is of minor importance (p. 287). The role of primal therapist consists primarily of being a catalyst for the emergence of stored historic pain. From the object relations perspective, however, the reliving of traumas is therapeutic only in the relational context of being heard and accepted (p. 294).

Research. Videgard (1984a) notes a serious discrepancy between Janov's claims of success and his own actual research findings. Videgard believes that ‘the published data are likely to represent an overestimation of the positive effect of Primal Therapy’ (p. 254)./…/

The Results /…/

13 subjects were considered to have had satisfactory outcomes, while between 14 (p. 295) and 19 (p. 303) had unsatisfactory outcomes.

How does Videgard (1984a) interpret these findings? ‘The main result is that about 40% of the primal patients achieve a satisfactory result within 15 to 25 months’ (p. 249). This statistic may be figured in many different ways, and various calculations of satisfactory results range form 39% for the random sample to 50% of the total sample (exclusive of subjects who could not be post-tested).

Which subjects benefitted most from Primal Therapy? Videgard correlated prognostic outcomes with several subject variables including (1) age, (2) sex, (3) marital status, (4) nationality, and (5) initial prognosis (i.e., the diagnosis). Several correlations were clearly evident between outcome categories and subject background variables. Although the small sample size allowed for only one statistically significant finding, some of the others are clinically significant and should be considered in future research.

1. An obvious correlation, suggesting a curvilinear relationship, exists with respect to age and outcome: Subjects between 30 and 40 (n=11) were more successful that subjects under 30 (n=15) [64% and 40% respectively], and no subject over 40 (n=5) was successful (Videgard, 1984a, p. 247). Perhaps there is an optimal age range for success in Primal Therapy (i.e., 30-40); in any event, the outcomes of the therapy were different for different age groups.

2. Are the results of Primal Therapy different for men and women? This study suggests not. Men (n=21) and women (n=10) showed very similar rates of success [43% and 40% respectively] (cf. Videgard, 1984a, p. 246).

3. The relationship between marital status and outcome revealed a highly significant finding (p < .01): married subjects (n=9) were more successful than divorced (n=5) or unmarried (n=17) subjects [67%, 60%, and 24% satisfactory prognostic outcomes, respectively] (Videgard, 1984a, p. 247). It should be added, however, that unmarried and divorced subjects actually came to Primal Therapy with more severe disturbances than married subjects: none of the married subjects (n=8) entered therapy with a ‘severe disturbance, although 71% of unmarried (n=17) and 67% (n=6) subjects did so. [Note: there is a discrepancy between the number of married (9, 8) and divorced (5, 6) subjects in the original Tables 4 and 5, respectively (cf. pp. 246-248)].

4. The correlation between nationality and outcome revealed that (1) Europeans (n=15) and (2) Scandinavians (n=12) were more successful than (3) American and Canadians combined (n=16) [53%, 50% and 31% respectively] (Videgard, 1984a, p. 247). As Videgard correctly notes, this may be a chance finding. Another plausible hypothesis is that (a) Europeans and Scandinavians were somehow different than North Americans--perhaps more highly motivated, since they had to overcome greater obstacles to obtain treatment, or (b) Primal Therapy is somehow more effective on the character structures of Europeans and Scandinavians than Americans and Canadians.

5. Subjects entering therapy with a ‘severe disturbance’ (n=16) are less successful than those entering with a ‘moderately severe disturbance’ (n=15) [25% and 60% satisfactory outcomes, respectively] (Videgard, 1984a, p. 248). 'The difference in outcome between the severe and the moderately severe groups is significant (p < .05). . . . Patients with deep disturbances are less likely to benefit from Primal Therapy than those with milder disturbances’ (p. 249).

6. An important but unreported correlation is that subjects with no previous therapy (n=11) were more successful than those with previous therapy (n=17) [55% and 41%, respectively] (cf. Videgard, 1984a, p. 246).

The following were reported by Videgard, but seem to have been derived in a less systematic fashion.

7. New memories (i.e., a reappearance of previously forgotten scenes) were reported by only a few subjects. This finding, however, should be qualified in at least the following ways. First, well-known childhood scenes reportedly took on new meanings. Second, many subjects reported strong feelings and bodily sensations which they associated with very early events but were unaccompanied by images or memories ‘in the common meaning of that word’ (Videgard, 1984a, pp. 274-275). In light of findings from Primal Therapy and other experiential psychotherapies, perhaps we need to expand the common meaning of the word ‘memory’ (cf. Khamsi, 1985, regarding ‘memory’ and the primal process). Third, it is probable that repression intervened between the time of memories experienced in therapy and the time of the posttest interviews. As a therapist, I have often seen the pernicious effects of repression; it is not at all unusual for a person to have deep experiential memories one moment, and literally be unable to recall them the next.

8. Videgard (1984a) reports that only three subjects had ‘connected’ birth feelings (p. 275), and that ‘integrated experiences,’ an undefined term, were rare before the ages of three or four. The reader may receive a false impression, however, since many more of these subjects reported having had numerous nonverbal, perhaps ineffable experiences--many of which were explicitly reported to be birth-related (cf. Khamsi, 1985, for a qualitative account of birth feelings in Primal Therapy). Videgard, then, appears to be extremely conservative in accepting nonverbal and birth feelings as ‘connected’ or ‘integrated,’ and thus as legitimate objects of scientific inquiry.

Videgard (1984a) believes that most, but not all, of his subjects may have done as well or better in more conventional therapies. ‘Except for the . . . three to four subjects who had been both 'desperate and integrated' and who had relived their birth-traumas, it seems the rest of the successful patients, at least in principle, could have achieved their results in good insight psychotherapy’ (p. 280). This is speculation, and I disagree. Videgard's own book, in fact, has innumerable statements of subjects that contradict the notion that other approaches would have worked as well for them. But it does indicate Videgard's unstated respect for the power of birth feelings--for certain subjects.

9. None of the subjects considered themselves cured (Videgard, 1984a, p. 275; cf. the ‘Failure Rate’ section in the ‘Discussion’ below).

10. Thirteen subjects reported improved relations with the opposite sex, and two reported improved relations with the same sex (Videgard, 1984a, p. 276). One-third reported a better sex life, one-third were unchanged, and three or four were ‘aggravated.’

In addition to the above findings, Videgard reported the following impressions from his research.

11. ‘A great majority of the patients found the Primal Therapy slower and much more difficult than expected’ (Videgard, 1984a, p. 273).

12. ‘Most of the successful patients had positive feelings for at least one or two therapists [while] none of the five least successful patients had developed strong positive feelings for any therapist’ (Videgard, 1984a, p. 273). Related to this is the impression that ‘about 50% of the patients wanted more individual contact with the therapists’ (p. 277). These findings provide strong support for Videgard's argument to rethink the therapeutic relationship in Primal Therapy.

13. Those patients whose childhoods had been characterized by a general lack of emotional contact with both parents seem to have very small chances of benefitting from Primal Therapy (Videgard, 1984a, p. 282). This finding underscores Videgard's concern about the importance of human relationships, both in development and in therapy.

14. No patient claimed to have experienced the complete sequence of events by which Holden (1976) describes a ‘primal’ (Videgard, 1984a, p. 274). So-called ‘primal screams’ were reportedly rare, and even screaming was an exception. According to Videgard, ‘most patients preferred to talk about feelings instead of primals.’ (p. 274)

There appears to be a chasm between Primal Therapy experiences as they are (a) lived and (b) described in the literature. Moreover, ‘primals’ and their neurophysiological correlates are apparently most intriguing to patients before their therapy, not after.

15. Most subjects had one or two key scenes, but crying was more often about generalized feelings than about specific scenes (Videgard, 1984a, p. 275).

Generalized feelings have been denigrated by Janov because his theory is based on the importance of reliving specific ‘primal scenes.’ According to these reports from Janov's own clientele, however, most feelings in Primal Therapy are in fact generalized and not specific./…/

The primal sense is a literal sixth Aristotelean sense, related to but different than the vestibular, kinesthetic and cutaneous ‘body senses.’

16. Improved work capacity was the only area of perceived progress for several subjects (Videgard, 1984a, p. 276). Obviously, these were subjects with unsatisfactory outcomes.

17. Videgard (1984a) discovered that ‘patients who did not perceive the threat in the last exposure of the DMT before therapy fail significantly more often than those who perceive the threat’ (p. 282). This is an important finding, and is deserving of future research attention.

Discussion

Videgard is clearly in favor of replacing the psychoanalytic paradigm. He has leveled a massive attack on orthodox ‘drive-oriented’ psychoanalytic theory and, drawing firepower from ORT [Object Relation Theory?] and Primal Therapy, has proposed as alternative--the "trauma-relations" orientation. In resurrecting the psychoanalytic paradigm, Videgard argues in favor of incorporating the theory and relational therapeutic context of ORT with many of the therapeutic techniques of Primal Therapy. In order to strengthen and further elucidate the trauma-relations position, Videgard has conducted an empirical outcome study of Primal Therapy./…/

Videgard (1984a) might also conduct one or more follow-up studies of these same primal subjects sometime in the future. This meritorious undertaking would begin to chart the long-term effects of Primal Therapy. ‘Cindy’ (pp. 39-43), interviewed seven years after beginning the therapy, shows that Primal Therapy outcomes may appear very different when evaluated over a longer period. Videgard could fairly easily expand his original project into a longitudinal study, retesting and/or reinterviewing the subjects periodically, perhaps once every five or ten years. Given the huge amount of work already invested, and the importance of the findings thus far, it may well be advisable to expand the research in this way./…/

Videgard concluded that the results of the psychoanalysis and pychoanalytically-oriented therapies at the Menninger clinic seemed less successful than his primal sample (p. 266). The Primal Institute, then, was considered to have slightly better outcomes than either the Tavistock or Menninger clinic.

The failure rate of Primal Therapy. Carlini and Bernfeld ('Questionnaire,' 1979) conducted a pilot study of 200 Primal Institute patients. They estimated an overall "failure rate" of Primal Therapy from the following: (1) 21% of their sample claimed to be unable to primal as described in the literature, (2) 24% claimed they had not reexperienced a repressed feeling or event, and (3) 19% stated that they were unable to feel previously-repressed feeling (p. 5). From their large sample, Carlini and Bernfeld estimated the failure rate of Primal Therapy to be approximately 21% (p. 5).

In Videgard's (1984a) study, however, ‘almost one-third (9 out of 31 patients) had either left the therapy prematurely (including one suicide) and/or expressed strong dissatisfaction with their own development and follow-up’ (p. 267). In all, 40% of Videgard's subjects were judged to have reached a satisfactory result (p.267); this contrasts sharply with Carlini and Bernfeld's explicit success rate of 79% and with Janov's implicit success rate of 90-98%.

How can such major discrepancies exist between these postulated rates of success in Primal Therapy? Clearly, part of the answer is that Videgard employed more exacting methods to determine therapeutic success and failure than either Carlini and Bernfeld or Janov; Janov's estimates have been impressionistic, while Carlini and Bernfeld's was based on data from self-reports. In any event, the primal community must continue to examine its therapy outcomes. There is a need to examine what 'success' and 'failure' mean in Primal Therapy, as well as how and why they do or do not occur. This is a deep and complex issue that deserves much future attention.

One important aspect of any therapy success or failure concerns the issue of therapeutic technique. Videgard (1984a) believes that 'at least some of the failures in Primal Therapy can be attributed to specific shortcomings in the way the therapy is done' (p. 284). This charge deserves comment.

The technique of Primal Therapy. Videgard (1984a) approves of the sensitive use of primal techniques (p. 288). He believes that the physical setting and focusing technique of Primal Therapy allow maximum freedom of emotional expression. ‘The primal technique,’ in fact, ‘may be a help to follow the patient's natural pace’ (p. 288).

Videgard (1984a) objects, however, to the lack of an on-going therapeutic relationship. Most Primal Therapy failures can be attributed to the lack of individual therapy sessions for most patients. The discharge-model is simply insufficient, says Videgard, so primal theory needs to be replaced and ‘continuous, individual therapeutic contact’ should contextualize the primal therapeutic process (p. 296).

Videgard is correct. In 1969, after leaving the Primal Institute, therapists at the Marin Center for Intensive Therapy began offering Primal Therapy that included an explicit and defined client-centered relationship. Since commencing therapy there in 1973 I have observed Primal Therapy practiced in many ways. /…/

What is Primal Therapy?

Certain facts about Primal Therapy have been established by Videgard. Following from these facts, he has provided an interpretation of the findings and has offered a well-reasoned argument in favor of an alternative paradigm--the trauma relations perspective.

Videgard's facts have been established with proper scientific rigor and reporting, and thus represent an important new source of information for the empirical data base of Primal Therapy. These data may, however, be interpreted in other ways. While I generally accept his data as facts, my own interpretations sometimes differ.

I find Videgard's findings plausible and his arguments fairly persuasive. I agree, for instance, that ORT is superior to primal theory with respect to developmental theory and client-therapist relationships. In a prior article, however, I interpreted these same facts in a slightly different way--my argument was in favor of a ‘humanistic’ or ‘client-centered’ Primal Therapy (Khamsi, 1981). With respect to this fundamental deficiency in primal therapeutic relationships, Videgard and I have offered similar, constructive alternatives. Primal theory needs to be reworked in light of its own failings, taking into account the strengths of ORT and person-centered theory.

In attempting to get at the core of Primal Therapy, Videgard (1984a) has attempted to determine if it is a unique method, i.e., if it is the only approach that is able to help certain people (p. 279). He believes that it may have been for some of his subjects. Unfortunately, Videgard here has pursued the 'primal-is-the-only-cure-for-mental-illness' myth, which is dated both as an honest misconception and as a sales campaign. Primal is one viable approach, preferred by many; but viewing Primal Therapy as discontinuous with and/or better than other approaches keeps us from understanding and researching exactly what it is and how it relates to any larger scheme of things./…/

Through imaginative variation we can see that the essence of Primal Therapy lies neither with primal screaming, nor three-week Intensives, nor particular techniques. Primal Therapy is a way of feeling and being real. This insight has been central to my own thesis that the primal sense dimension is most essential to the primal therapeutic process.

Primal is, in essence, a way of being real or authentic. It emerges from an individual's ‘decision’ to open to what is, to feel-change-grow in spite of pain or difficulty. Nothing done to a person--such as ‘therapy’--facilitates real change. Being real come from within. Therapist and client/patient/person can work together, sharing experiences, ideas and feelings, so that both may live with greater feeling, meaning and authenticity. Being real can never be forced./…/

With respect to trauma, we must distinguish between theories of etiology and theories of therapy. A trauma theory of etiology needs to show that personality development is significantly affected by traumatic incidents, and this idea has been widely accepted. A trauma theory of therapy, on the other hand, would need to demonstrate a prevalence of subjects reliving specific traumatic scenes--which clearly was not the case in this study. There were fewer reports of new memories and specific feelings--hallmarks of reliving traumatic scenes--than of general feelings about such scenes. In general, then, the data support a relational Primal Therapy and a trauma theory of etiology but refute a trauma theory of therapy.

Theory can open or close our eyes. Just as Janov opened eyes when his insights were fresh, we can continue to open eyes and hearts and minds by researching and reporting human experience as it is lived--not theorized. Janov helped us see beyond the bounds of psychological theories extant. Now we must see beyond his.”

"Etiologi är läran om orsakssamband, eller kausalitet. Termen kommer ifrån grekiskans aitia, orsak, och logia, lära, och används inom filosofi, fysik, psykologibiologi då man diskuterar orsaker till olika fenomen.

Inom medicin används termin specifikt för anledningar och bakomliggande variabler till sjukdomar och patologiska tillstånd.

Med begreppet kan också avses en orsakslära som i sagor och berättelser söker förklara hur olika företeelser, bruk och namn har uppkommit. Ett slags etiologier är bildliga förklaringar som då John Blund sägs komma med sömnen till barnen."

3/27/2008

Pleading the cause of the oppressed…

it looked like this on parts of the road when I drove here on Tuesday! (parking-permissions on the windscreen, not so beautiful! :-))

[Updated in the end March 29. I will perhaps proof-read this text later. I did the translation very quickly - once again. Now I am going to the town to shop food, tomato-seeds etc.]

Some blog postings triggered thoughts… About oppression and who need to plead the cause (föra talan) of the oppressed? Who ought to be spokesman to the oppressed? Who need to plead the child's/children's cause? Can the child do this on her/his own? Who need to plead to other oppressed’s cause?

There was a review of a new book about “the mother” of the Master Suppression Techniques Berit Ås. Angela Davis had said to Ås that it isn’t poverty in itself which causes rebellion. For rebellion (and questioning) to happen/occur or take place a leader from the higher societal classes ["higher societal classes" in a metaphorical sense too!!??] is needed to step forward and lead the oppressed people/person(s) and their revolts(s) [a therapist has this role too? Helping her/his client understanding, questioning, seeing as wrong, rebel against wrongdoings that were done - and are done].

I draw parallels to different relations and different levels of the society, and even to the world’s...

A child needs having someone pleading its right on the “lowest” level already… A child needs help to be able to question and see as wrong and to rebel. Without this what happens?

Children in general in society need this too!? That things are spoken about and able to speak about. That about taboos... What's unspeakable and taboo, things one isn't allowed to touch upon?

And what does a child actually need (respectful treatment for its person, feelings etc.)? What does a grown up need? What are righteous, justified needs for a human being in a society, things we all need and which are justified for all living human beings?

All with power of different degrees have more responsibility for what they do, say, behave etc. towards the one under him/her. Journalists have responsibility for what they write…

The postings which triggered this posting were written from a feminist view(stand?)point…

About how it is in society today, and how it was. And a common denominator is that there is a real backlash in society. Which I agree to too.

I want to translate from the texts:

Ås is influenced by the Norwegian psychologist Robert Levin (a former teacher of hers?). According to him and his research the democratic leadership is the most effective, functions most effectively, and the authoritarian leadership results in discord, dissension and bad cooperation in the groups exposed to this sort of leadership [thinking of our quite authoritarian school-minister Jan Björklund, leader of the liberal party here, and other authoritarian 'leaderships' such as those in therapies, help-forums etc. What does an authoritarian leadership cause in these, and what has it caused?].

Ås and the interviewer, and author of the book about Ås, thinks that the society in fact is leaning on an invisible women-cultural basis, that would fall apart, fall to pieces, if women one day decided to come out on strike (if they should say: No, we don't find ourselves in this!?). This culture is held together with women’s unpaid jobs, the work which isn’t valued, isn’t paid and isn’t spoken of but is taken for granted – as the air we breathe. Ås also says that it is the exploitation of women which characterizes the man’s culture.

And back to what Angela Davis said; that it isn’t poverty in itself which cause rebellion. A leader from the higher societal classes is needed for rebellion. A reflection from me: and to these “higher societal classes” mothers belong for children, fathers too, men for women in many occasions (because men still have more power, a higher status etc.) etc. etc. …

The reviewer writes that today when the individualism is highest fashion and the prevailing liberal ideology claims that all are unrestrictedly egoistic [but why are we if we are???] we are made blind to this fact.

Of course this lays in the oppressors interests, that we all get suspicious towards these persons fighting for many people’s rights and not least that we dispatch those people fighting for groups they themselves aren’t part of, don't belong to [as Cecilia von Krusenstjerna, daughter to the former VD for Volvo P. G. Gyllenhammar in a discussion-program recently about "Are we on our way back to a maiden-society? (having servants again)"!!]. Nonetheless such a disinterested, altruistic behaviour has been the condition, not only for the working-class’ climbing from unrestrained sucking out, but also for women’s liberation. For example, without the support from men women’s fight for equality would have been in vain.

The reviewer thinks on J. S. Mills standpoints, as well as the men which made it possible for women getting Academic exams and work with research despite powerful critics from contemporary co-brothers.

That Berit Ås is very critical to the neoliberalism’s emphasis on the egoism and the individualization of society you can’t miss. She believes in teamwork and cooperation, on the thesis that together we are strong; alone we can’t bring any change about.

But I would add that teamwork and cooperation shouldn't be a prescription in everything we do either; that all have to be involved in everything!!?? Must one exclude the other though? Because, yes, I need my own time and I need a certain amount of freedom... The collective doesn't have to (and shall/should not) exclude the individual... I am an individualist too, but also need people around me!? Does the collective have to exclude the individual or vice versa, the individual exclude the collective*? What would be the soundest? What did Pia Mellody say about independence/dependence?

A younger woman than the reviewer above writes in another posting, on her blog:
“It feels a little cliché-like to say, but it’s true that we live in a time, an era, with an enormous fixation on appearances and looks [is this blog a satire upon this, or only about joking and having fun???], where human dignity is converted into bridges of the noses, rows of teeth and body-shapes [Aren't we good as we are, and if not why not? Do we need to be perfect? In every sense? Being superhuman beings? People rebelling through self-destructiveness and/or destructiveness? And the power, stand in for our parents, tells us whom, what and how we ought to be? Yes, what is actually human dignity?]? Or, we are already there?

I often walk over the cemetery to my work, an old cemetery in central Uppsala, with mossy stones over great dead men and their more or less deeply, under the forgetfulness’ anonymity, buried spouses. A picture of past times./…/


…that one still is there with the wave of life and its strong forces of sickness, and just establish, accept, the dead ones implacable suborder.”

Quotes from Angela Davis:

"Progressive art can assist people to learn not only about the objective forces at work in the society in which they live, but also about the intensely social character of their interior lives. Ultimately, it can propel [driva fram] people toward social emancipation [social frigörelse]."

"Imprisonment [fångenskap] has become the response of first resort to far too many of our social problems."

Was tipped by a friend about the shorter version on “Psychopathy and Consumerism” titled “Consumerism the fastest Growing Religion” – thanks!


Addition March 29:
as you can rad in the article above about consumerism.

“Few societies could imagine themselves surviving very long when one of their central institutions was advocating unrestrained greed.”

And what is this need about? About early unfulfilled needs? And see about "Seven Deadly sins"!! In Swedish here. But what are they about in turn too?

And see about John Dewey and the progressivism!

An initiative worth copying…

how is Easter, and other holidays, for children (and adults)?

The new blog Sigruns blogg writes in a posting yesterday about a network Reddesmå.no in Norway consisting of professionals, politicians and private persons supporting the work fighting violence, abuse, neglect, encroachment and lack of care towards children.

The background for this network is that some thousand children use their forces, powers, strengths, vigour, and vitalities on protecting themselves against violence, encroachment, and lack of care. They live remarkably silent with their catastrophe-secrets (very loyally), but are often enormously frightened.

Private-persons, the public help and judicial system or national authorities haven’t procured for enough help for the small, frightened children. Most of them don’t get sufficient help before the damage made is too big.

The initiative-takers are a male family-therapist and a woman working at something called BUF-etat in Norway: “Norwegian Directorate for Children, Youth and Family Affairs”.

An initiative to copy here and there!!?? For raising the awareness of these issues even more, making it clear to children what is wrong and to be questioned, and for raising the awareness about how it can be for children - and for the results of how children are treated.


I am "boknörd" or "book-nerd" this much:

3/26/2008

A long walk...


Trees, trees, trees, and wood, wood, wood!! And some other pictures... I had an unintended or involuntary 70 minutes walk at after 14:30 (2:30 PM)...

Some of the pictures are from a charcoal hut here. Fairly newly built.

Watch this site CSPCC - Website of The Canadian Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children – Empathic Parenting, it seems interesting!!! I have just started discovering it!

See this reader's letter at Miller's site "Systemic failure, cover-up, and under-reporting of abuse."

Civil courage...

taking a nap!!
I read something in "Rediscovering the True Self" by Ingeborg Bosch at page 143-144.

I think it was the physician Christina Doctare who pointed out in her book "Brain Stress" (came 1999, and I have a book with a dedication from her, but I didn't get it in person) from where "civil courage" origins? "Courage" comes from the French "coeur" which means "heart"... So civil courage to her means the heart or feelings are involved. About her at Wikipedia (only in Swedish).

Bosch writes Chapter 5, "Taking responsibility for our feelings":
"We usually live more or less impulsively [not an excuse for everything??], and when things go wrong we blame the other person, the world, fate or ultimately God [or ourselves].

Research by Jones and Nisbett has shown how we are all prone to this basic attitude. Actors tend to attribute their actions to external factors, whereas observers tend to attribute the same actions to personal dispositions of the actor. /.../

[An] example is the Watergate scandal. '...Many of the participants in that affair maintained that they were simply following executive orders, while 'higher-ups' argued that they had acted out of a concern for national security. All the actors in short made external attributions. But by the summer of 1974, a majority of citizens - observers via the press - saw the participants as corrupt, power-hungry, and paranoid. The observers made internal attributions.' This is called the actor-observer effect."
At this site it stands about their ideas:
"Jones and Nisbett's (1971) proposition that actors favor environmental attribution and observers personal attribution was investigated. Subjects attributed causality from two perspectives (observer versus role-playing actor) for verbally-described behaviors which varied in desirability (low versus moderate versus high). The results suggested that motivational considerations mediated actor-observer attributional differences. While observers attributed more personal cause than did actors at all levels of desirability, this actor-observer difference was attenuated as behavioral desirability increased. Actor-observer differences were not evidenced on environmental attribution, suggesting that perspective differences represent a differential salience of personal causes for actors and observers."
It also struck me: what do our behaviours towards animals reflect? I could write a separate posting about this, as I grew up with animal and saw things (and probably didn't see things too) and have people in my family of origin working with animals (so I think I know them as persons too, but maybe I don't? I wonder if they are different when family-members aren't present??)... My dad and the two siblings coming after me (a brother and a sister) were/are agronomists with domestic animals as Major (huvudämne in Swedish).

And I wish I could relax as the dog Eskil!! (the dog and cat on the picture are not mine! :-))

3/25/2008

Consumerism...

I got this tip from a friend about "The Canadian Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children – CSPCC". On the home-site it stands:

"What is Empathic Parenting?

Being willing and able to put yourself in your child's shoes in order to correctly identify his/her feelings, and

Being willing and able to behave toward your child in ways which take those feelings into account.

Empathic Parenting takes an enormous amount of time and energy and fully involves both parents in a co-operative, sharing way.

Credo of the CSPCC

Recognizing that the capacity to give and receive trust, affection and empathy is fundamental to being human, and...

Knowing that all of us suffer the consequences when children are raised in a way that makes them affectionless and violent, and...

Realizing that for the first time in History we have definite knowledge that these qualities are determined by the way the child is cared for in the very early years..."

And there was an article “Psychopathy and Consumerism: Two Illnesses That Need And Feed Each Other”, there one can read for instance:

"A psychopath or partial psychopath has an impaired capacity to form intimate, trusting mutually satisfying relationships with other human beings as a result of impaired attachment in the earliest years. Unable to find pleasure and satisfaction from others, the psychopath or partial psychopath must turn to things -- goods and services, toys and travel -- to fill the emptiness within.

The emptiness of the hollow man must be filled, and consumerism has learned how.

It is said that a culture creates the kind of people it needs. Maybe we're into frequent separations and changing, shared, paid caregivers in the first three years of the lives of our children so they will grow up with an insatiable need to shop till they drop.

If you're unable to obtain satisfaction from BEING, which is based on love and the pleasure of sharing, then the HAVING MODE, as Eric Fromm put it, is your only choice. 'The HAVING MODE, concentrates on material possession, acquisitiveness, power, and aggression and is the basis of such universal evils as greed, envy, and violence...'"

We fill our needs in other ways too? In destructiveness and self-destructiveness of different kinds… But, yes, many of us fill needs through buying things, to different degrees!??

Searched on shopping and found those two articles
“I love shopping" and “Shopping you out of consumerism” (both in Swedish).

PS. About Zygmunt Bauman and his personal moral back when he was young in this article in the Guardian "Professor with a past".

PPS. Ingeborg Bosch has written about forcing a child to share at a too early age... The child will develop into a sharing individual on her/his own if one gives it that chance or opportunity? (not that anyone should be forced to share either?? Whether child or grown up?) I think I have written about this somewhere. Now I am going to pack the car and drive north though... It's plus degrees and cloudy... It's so nice with spring.

Addition in the evening: now I am at the country-side, something I really like. After lunch I took a nap (one whole hour I think) looks like I needed it!!! Need to relax really?? After a lot at work and a lot of emotions...

After the nap I took a walk with a cute dog in the wood here. It's still a lot of snow there. And when I drove here it snowed!!!

Eskil the dog has got a new toy, a sounding one, and when I came he showed it to me!! He wanted to play??? It's so fun that he still wants. He is after all 5 years!!

3/24/2008

Rationality contra emotions...

picture taken on a walk November 11, 2006.

I want to translate the comments I got to this posting (very quickly done):

“The Norwegian professor in theology Svein Aage Christoffersen writes about animal-ethics in the article ‘Do we have a common basis of valuation for animals and is this shown in how animals are held today?’:

‘Empathy, the ability to enter into, and take into oneself, what other people are exposed to is an important side in what it is to be a human being. That’s true that many are on guard when it comes to feelings in relation to animals. Our treatment of animals shall be based on facts, not emotions. That is a fear I can’t understand. When it comes to relations human beings between we know that some in fact are lacking empathy, without ability to bond/attach to other human beings with emotional ties/bonds. These people are often called a little drastically for psychopaths.

I can’t understand why psychopaths shall be models for treatment of animals.

This of course doesn’t mean that we can manage only with emotions but without facts. Of course it isn’t like that human beings between either, even if we are tied up with emotional ties. But it means that we can’t manage with facts alone. If we are acting only from facts without feelings, then we are practically without ability to differ between evilness and goodness.’

In the book about ethics ‘Action and ability to judge’ he says that the emotions have a hermeneutic meaning. They make it possible for us in understanding what is going on around us. Through our feelings we are engaged and involved in the world we live in [we react on it, we can enjoy it, really be alive]. Our feelings/emotions give us access to the world and community/fellowship with other people. Without feelings/emotions we will be without/lack ability to apprehend/understand and perceive what a life together with other people brings with it and how other perceive and experience the situation we share with them [the one without this ability is emotionally disabled!!?? Maybe emotionally disabled to different degrees, more or less?].

A person aware of what responsibility is is a person with responsibility-FEELING!”

According to the commentator Zigmunt Bauman means in his book Auschwitz and the modern society” (or is the title in English “Modernity and The Holocaust”? See also here about this book) that

“...the Holocaust was the result of a fundamentalist fixation on reason/common sense. A sort of fundamentalist rationality. Holocaust is according to him a too far driven rationalisation. Bauman means that these rational and bureaucratic methods are used even more than ever. With this he want to say that today’s society still has potential for creating an even more ghastly future annihilation than holocaust. Bauman means that instead of seeing the Holocaust as an abnormal occurrence we should apprehend it a ‘normal’ aspect of the formal rational modern society. This means that the Holocaust is a product of the modernity and not the result of an undermined modernity.

In accordance with the critical theory’s rhetoric this could be interpreted as the culmination/climax of the irrational rationality which is characteristic for the barbaric civilisation, but Bauman pleads for another view.”

In summary:

“...he sees the Holocaust stamped by the instrumental rationality’s first and foremost distinctive mark, i.e. effectiveness, ability to predict, quantification and inhuman technology. Thus the Holocaust wasn’t a result of irrationality or for-modern barbarism, but instead a logical product of the modern rational [no emotions here!] bureaucracy.

Bauman didn’t see the rationality as neutral, as it lacked moral and was driven only by strive for effectiveness. This means that the rationality isn’t only a tool but also a goal. Baumann saw this as something negative and alarming, because such a fundamentalist fixation to reason/commons sense gets fatal results in form of a self-inflicted annihilation of common sense. However this indicates, in contrast to Baumann’s comprehension, that Holocaust as a symbol for the instrumental rationality is characterized by an irrational rationality and dehumanisation.”
Addition: Made the translation above from I got the comments and till I should see a series on TV, which means I did it in a little more than one hour, so it was really a swift translation with all what that means!!

Konrad Stettbacher talked about feelings as "Watchers of Life" ("livets väktare" in Swedish) in his book, and that we ought to protect them in children [and in ourselves and probably develop them in ourselves!!??]

But as the commentator also wrote:

“In addition to feelings we also need common sense (virtues, principles, knowledge) to be able to ponder upon ethical choices /…/ We can’t say something is right or wrong (just) because ‘we feel it is like that’."
Thanks for the comments!!! I needed this right now! It is in communication things happens?? When we awake thoughts, emotions, reflections, reactions in each other?? And try to communicate this??

The nature...

The nature means a lot. It has been many really cold nights again. And days. People out walking and skating at the ices here. But I took a bike-ride, really need to get out. Get day light and exercise. Now waiting for an Easter-lunch in the oven, but it is soon ready I think. Tried to find a nature-photo. And found this one, on a swan. The colours were so beautiful...

About Mischa Maisky, the cellist, here and here.

And about Camille Saint-Saëns here

Narratives - and information...

But how do we come to terms with all these things? It’s all hopeless and depressing?

One way is trying to inform?

I also saw (once again) the chapter “Narratives” in Kirkengen’s book “Inscribed bodies…” At page 55 she writes:

“Dialogues about the impact of life world experiences on individuals include personal memories and reflections. To these, statements or judgments are related, shaped as narrative accounts. In the human sciences, there exists a multidisciplinary agreement that a central part of human communication is embedded in the telling of stories. This is mirrored in the universality of story-telling, and in the grammar structures constituting a linguistic matrix for stories found in all human languages. The story itself resembles a natural psychological unit in emotional life. Such stories present as internally consistent interpretations or reconstructions of presently understood past, experienced present and anticipated future.”

Came to think about findings around alexithymia. A Swedish stress researcher Peter Währborg wrote in one of his books about alexithymia, i.e. lack of emotional language, and the problems with this; if you have problems expressing your feelings you are at risk of developing heart-diseases. He has found similar things in immigrants he writes, who of natural reasons “don’t have the language”. Or can there be other reasons (too) to the development of heart-diseases in those persons? And my dad had no heart-problems at all! Despite I wouldn’t say he had a well developed emotional language, or expressed what he felt or had it, and definitely not in emotional terms/words (instead in outbursts). So he was an exception from those with a well developed emotional language (but he had the language in other senses?? and expressed himself in other ways?), which confirms the rule??

Earlier postings under the label alexithymia.

When I searched on alexithymia I found this article ”How do one know what is right and what is wrong?”, where it for instance stood (my translation from Swedish a little freely) that the…

“… ‘intuitionists’ [those going on their intuition] don’t excommunicate the reason (or common sense). The modern society exposes us to a long row of new moral dilemmas and crisis our ancestors never met or were exposed to./…/

In our ‘modern’ choice-situations there are no intuitive flashes which swift as a lightening guides us. Then we must access our frontal lobe and weigh for and against. Such a combined emotion and thought process is laborious and takes a long time [longer than the intuitive flashes which guided our earliest ancestors?], or at least it ought to take time if the mankind, love and the planet shall survive on longer term.”

(Silent reflection: k, the spontaneous and "quick" and fast reacting!? Going on emotions, but also on intellect?? Of some accused for being too intellectual or only intellectual? Other people are disturbed by the spontaneity? Or how does the environment actually sees this? "What people think." I am both spontaneous and shy - and thinking?? All in one??? One can't satisfy all? Is it necessary and who are important actually in this world, for me? And for whom am I worth something; valuable, appreciated...?)

The author of the article writes that we have to try to stand living in a time which despite all its inspiring modernity and all its good democracy is morally totally confused (???). She speculates that there are no moral patent-solutions on what is right and what is wrong (but still there are, when it comes how to treating other people!?). And continues:

“Then it feels good when Zimmer [she had read the book “Soul made flesh” by Carl Zimmer] reminds me about that humankind’s moral has been shaped during millions of years and that this moral above all is about caring about other people.”

Hmmm, words, words, words... (a Wall of Words? Putting it up against other people: don't come near! Don't come here!? A protection against disappointment?)

Words aren't enough either? Sometimes you just need a hug with no words at all, a wordless expression of care, maybe only meeting another person's eyes, encouraging, caring??

To be continued I think (I would like to quote Kirkengen further)...

PS. Stuck at the computer on my way to the shower and washing the dishes:

Strong – not weak, having no needs or feelings. Being “strong” was important – and justified abuse? Because if you didn’t feel, then what harm did violence or abuse cause, and you could also be accused of being both too sensitive, oversensitive and totally insensitive and not caring!? A catch 22-situation?

Controlling your feelings was admired (and is socially admired)? At least in some who had the responsibility of thinking of others and controlling their feelings (and needs?), while others uncontrolled outbursts were allowed? Confusing!? Contradicting!?? Why this difference? It was no difference? You saw wrong (Thou Shalt Not Be Aware)?

And never the two meet?? But this is what they wanted?

Review of "Inscribed bodies..." by Vincent J. Felitti.