On children with Astrid Seriese...

3/23/2008

On children with Astrid Seriese...

On children
your children
are not your children
they are sons and daughters
of life longing for itself

they come trough you
but they are not from you
and though they are with you
they belong not to you

you can give them your love
but not your thoughts
they have their own thoughts
they have their own thoughts

you can house their bodies
but not their souls
for their souls dwell
in a place of tomorrow

which you cannot visit
not even in your dreams
you can try to be like them
but you cannot make them just like you

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About this blog...

In this blog I want to explore the effects of childhood experiences on individual lives, the health (not only the emotional/psychological, but also, and not least, the bodily/somatic), the society, why people seek themselves to power positions, the effect of childhood on politics.

With the ideas that imbue Alice Miller's work and writing.

And sometimes just share things I have read and come across and I agree with and couldn't have said better myself.

I work full time with young people since many years, as teacher in music (piano pedagogue), and am interested in these things, both privately/personally and professionally.

But my time is limited to write and blog, even if it probably doesn't look so.

I will devote myself to loud thinking a lot here I think. And this blog is also a way for me to collect texts, facts, links, sites I want to save for further use maybe.

Books I am referring to on this blog:

Bosch, Ingeborg: "Rediscovering the True Self"
Freyd, Jennifer J.: "Betrayal Trauma - The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse" ISBN 0-647-06806-8
Jenson, Jean: "Reclaiming Your Life" ISBN 91-46-17409-5
Kirkengen, Anna Luise: "Hvordan krenkede barn blir syke voksne" ISBN 82-15-00713-9 ("How Abused Children Become Unhealthy Adults")
Kirkengen, Anna Luise: "Inscribed bodies - Health Impact of Childhood Sexual Abuse" ISBN 0-7923-7019-8
Lewis Herman, Judith: "Trauma and Recovery - From Domestic Violence to Political Terror" ISBN 086358430-6 (svensk översättning finns: ”Trauma och tillfrisknande” ISBN10: 9197263133, ISBN13: 9789197263139, Förlag: Göteborgs Psykoterapi Institut)
Miller, Alice: "Den dolda nyckeln" ISBN 91-46-15747-6 (The Untouched Key)
Miller, Alice: "Det självutplånande barnet och sökandet efter en äkta identitet" ISBN 91-7643-559-8 (The Drama of the Gifted Child)
Miller, Alice: "Du skall icke märka - variationer över paradistemat" ISBN 91-46-14374-2 (Thou Shalt Not Be Aware)
Miller, Alice: "Riv tigandets mur - sanning byggd på fakta" ISBN 91-46-16022-1 (Breaking Down the Wall of Silence)
Miller, Alice: "The Body Never Lies - The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting" ISBN 0-393-06065-9
Miller, Alice: "The Truth Will Set You Free - Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self" ISBN 0-465-04585-5
Miller, Alice: "Vägar i livet - sju berättelser" ISBN 91-46-17414-1 (Paths of Life - Seven Scenarios)
Pincus, Jonathan H.: "Base Instincts - What Makes Killers Kill?" ISBN 0-393-32323-4

About the ACE-study:

"It's not just water under the bridge."

ACEs are surprisingly common among people of all social strata, and have far-reaching consequences. For many people, it's not possible to "just get over it".

What's an ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience i.e. "skadlig barndomserfarenhet")?

Adverse Childhood Experience is growing up experiencing any of the following conditions in the household prior to age 18:

1. Recurrent physical abuse

2. Recurrent emotional abuse

3. Contact sexual abuse

4. An alcohol and/or drug abuser in the household

5. An incarcerated household member

6. Someone who is chronically depressed, mentally ill, institutionalized, or suicidal

7. Mother is treated violently

8. One or no parents

9. Emotional or physical neglect

Critical thinking

This is a blog, with my (sometimes very) personal - and loud reflections on what I read, see, hear, react on, feel for - and not feel for and want to explore. I don't work in this field at all, but I have my reflections and thoughts nevertheless and have read fairly a lot I think, and here I reflect upon all this. I am searching myself forward.
I link sites for information, if one want to know more about what I am talking/writing about and what is mentioned in the texts I am citing and referring to. And I link sites not least for my own sake. So it isn’t sure I agree with all that is linked on this blog, that's not why I link sites. I can agree with parts of what is linked, bigger or smaller, from almost everything to almost nothing.

I hope those who perhaps find my blog are reading everything here critically - including what stands in what I link.

And when it comes to therapy and all (self)help-concepts I think one shall be very careful. Maybe as a friend said it:

“Meaningful critical thinking.

Psychotherapists have been claiming that they have invented better treatment methods since Sigmund Freud in 1897. The amount of psychological distress in the world hasn’t become less. There’s money to be made from attracting more clients, whether the therapy works or not.

Meaningful critical thinking:

For every therapy method look for research into its effectiveness. Make sure the research is genuinely independent.
Has anyone suffered a bad experience with the therapy? [use Google]
What is the background and experience of the therapists?
Just because a therapist gives a good explanation of the causes of psychological distress is no guarantee that his/her therapy is good also.”

Also see Miller’s FAQ-list “How to Find the Right Therapist.”

Questions that can give one ideas about what to ask.

A dissertation on"Critical Thinking in Scholarship - Meanings, Conditions and Development" by Eva Brodin.

3/23/2008