What expressions does rebellion against ones parents take? How do we see it in this/the world? How is it expressed? And how has it been expressed through history?
1/02/2009
Rebellion...
What expressions does rebellion against ones parents take? How do we see it in this/the world? How is it expressed? And how has it been expressed through history?
10/18/2008
Outmoded by the reality...
A Swedish writer, Maria-Pia Boëthius
Media is trying to make the debate apolitical, but she thinks this won’t be a successful strategy because the policy is on its way back. And this time not as entertainment – but as a necessity for life.
She wonders what the next bubble bursting will be. Presumably the blown-up entertainment industry, which during the mad-capitalism consumed “the most of it”: the policy, the literature, the societal debate and so on.
To make the debate apolitical and push it in the direction entertainment the Medias have employed a young, trend setting generation whose premier merit has been that it has cooperated with the power and Mammon.
The myth is that every generation is making revolt, but this Media-generation has “liked the situation” and been the power of assistance through uninterruptedly dramatizing the consumption and create debates, not least through attacks on different celebrities, half-celebrities and arrange distributions of prizes where they give each other prizes. What is their rebellion about? Against what? How?
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She had heard an interview on radio with a sociologist from London School of Economics saying that we will now see nationalizing, socializing of – not only banks.
“Isn’t that leftish?”
the reporter asked.
And Boëthius was struck by the thought that she had never heard a public-service-reporter ask:
“Isn’t that rightist? Isn’t that neoliberal?”
in a challenging voice – as if public service instead of trying to be neutral make itself known as non-left.
The British sociologist laughed at the question and replied:
“If I had said that the British state would nationalize banks one year ago one had seen me as mad!”
The high-sounding empty phrases from media that “all political parties are alike” isn’t true she thinks. Does media has interests in that politics become that??
She thinks that politics is coming back, not as entertainment, but as a life necessity. And that the symbiosis between politicians and media is dissolving.
The experience-industry and the blown up entertainment industry suddenly seem outmoded and passed by the reality. The reality itself has shown to be far more dramatic than any manuscript-author could have thought out.
9/07/2008
The superclass and oppression…
We had thralls or trälar (slaves) too here in Scandinavia, for instance during the Viking-era. And later people were held as thralls, but in another sense. They weren't literally in villenage, but still villeins in many senses.
Apropos the book ”Superclass; The Global Power Elite and the World They Are Making” by David Rothkopf a commentator on a blog wrote about oppression, here my a little free translation and additions:
“One can scream oneself blue and it doesn’t matter or make any difference. But remember that the power, the oppression is dependent on psychology to a large degree. It’s dependent on that there are enough stupid people. Not unintelligent, of course, but self-righteous and dumb (foolish, stupid).”
The blog-owner replied:
“Of course you are right, and do you know this is also what David Rothkopf points out, who means that it’s ‘smooth’ for the superclass to govern so long as the voters in the democracies don’t take their responsibility and inform themselves so they can vote rationally.”
Yes, the power has interests in that the people under them don’t!?
For instance, we should all be interested that all people got enlightened! That all had good schools for instance, and had the same chances getting good education, with well-educated teachers (in all respects). I.e., that we all pay taxes for this or contribute.
But it isn’t only a question of money; that we for instance pay for other people’s children (even if we don’t have any own kids), but not least that we don’t want competition on equal terms!!?? I don't have own kids unfortunately and I come from a well-educated family... From the middle-class and maybe not the lowest either. Something you maybe don't see (self-irony)??
And by the way, it feels to me as people use the systems how high or low taxes they even pay. I even get the impression that people use it more (and even much more) in those countries where the taxes are lower… I don’t know if it has with a “national character” to do. :-) I think people are alike all over the world from the beginning though.
However, in some countries people seem to be more loyal to the system - still? But the power has interests that people stop being loyal to it??? They use the method divide and rule more or less consciously. People are played out against each other. And they let the (invisible) power play them out against other people!?
I draw this even further to how it probably was in the family, what many of us all over the world, in all countries and cultures, have in our backpacks (things many had to suppress ad deny and pass to oblivion, and it’s the ones in most denial who needs the power the most!? Once again I think the psycho-historians are right about that the most defended tend to lead, and that power exists as a defence); parents playing out their kids against each other to keep being in power, being the “authority”… As if they should need this??? Can’t they earn it in other ways? More naturally so to say or how one would express this.
And siblings who aren’t exposed join their parents to avoid becoming exposed to the parents’ treatment. Something the therapists Jean Jenson and Ingeborg Bosch have met with clients in therapy. Who painfully and with difficulties have discovered exactly those things; how siblings joined the scorning of them for instance. It’s the same, or the similar, phenomena in the adult world, for instance in politics?? We re-enact things there whether we are aware or want it or not. Where for instance media join the power so they get the feeling that… I don’t know…
There is no true indignation or fury from people in the media for instance. Or those who show indignation or fury are very few, so we hardly notice them, and they don’t get as much space in media as other people get. I wish there were more courageous people in the world. Yes, people with more civil courageous!? I.e. people with more “heart”!
See more about divide and rule, in English and in Swedish, about backward psychoclasses.
3/16/2008
Torment....
Time to blog after a hectic work period, but there are so many things I am reacting at… Listening to Stabat Mater (the recording with Claudio Abbado), the sun is shining and it was minus-degrees this morning. I don’t have anything booked today. Can do what I want.
Yesterday two of my siblings children (10 and 17 years) “borrowed” my apartment, but I didn’t meet them, unfortunately.
When I wrote on my other blog I was reminded about the movie “Torment” or “Hets” in Swedish where the Swedish director Ingmar Bergman made his début as script writer.
In the Swedish introduction on the site about this movie it stood something which didn’t stand on the English site, namely that this movie is a classic about a rebellious student of secondary school (gymnasist in Swedish).
On this site it stands in the end:
“’Torment’ provoked intensive debate in the press. Aftonbladet published a letter from Henning L. Håkanson of the Palmgren School where Ingmar Bergman had been a pupil (the statement referred to in the following quotation was made by Bergman and published the day after the premiere of ‘Torment’, on 3 October 1944):
‘Mr Bergman's statement, that his entire time at school was hell, surprises me. I clearly recall that he, his brother and his father were all very satisfied with the school. After his final examinations, Ingmar Bergman came back to school to attend our Christmas party, bright and cheery as far as one could tell, and not seeming to harbour any grudge, either against the school or its teachers. In all probability, the fact of the matter lies elsewhere. Our friend Ingmar was a problem child, lazy yet rather gifted, and the fact that such a person does not easily adapt to the daily routines of study is quite natural. A school cannot be adapted to suit bohemian dreamers, but to suit normally constituted, hard working people.’
A few days later Bergman replied: ‘Let us start with the '12-year hell' (coarsely expressed, by the way. Not a word used by me, but by the person who interviewed me. I recall using a milder term, which is somewhat different). Indeed…I was a very lazy boy, and very scared because of my laziness, because I was involved with theatre instead of school and because I hated having to be punctual, having to get up in the morning, do homework, sit still, having to carry maps, having break times, doing tests, taking oral examinations, or to put it plainly: I hated school as a principle, as a system and as an institution. And as such I have definitely not wanted to criticise my own school, but all schools. As far as I understand it, and as I clearly pointed out in that unfortunate interview, my school was neither better nor worse than other institutions with the same purpose.
My revered headmaster also writes (somewhat harshly): 'A school cannot be adapted to suit bohemian dreamers, but to suit normally constituted, hard working people'.
Where should the poor bohemians go? Should pupils be divided up: You're a bohemian, you're a hard-working person, you're a bohemian, etc. Would the bohemians be excused?
There are teachers one never forgets. Men one liked and men one hated. My revered headmaster belonged and still belongs (in my case) to the former category. I also have the feeling that my dear headmaster has not yet seen the film. Perhaps we should go and see it together!’”
I had one of Ingmar Bergman's wives as piano-teacher for four years, Käbi Laretei, she has written books, quite honest books about herself and her professional and personal life, and her last book is about her stormy life with Bergman (though a fairly "kind" book it felt to me!!?? She is less open in this than in her other books I think). Käbi writes in Swedish, despite she moved here from Estonia (where her father was diplomat) as 18-year-old, during WW2, and uses the Swedish language much better than many Swedes!! She is probably VERY talented in many areas (even language matters). She speaks German and English fluently too??
Bergman was very impressed by her and her intelligence he has admitted, so he put up a mask he thinks, playing a role... He did to her he thinks - the woman he was married to!! He thinks they played roles to each other. There was a kind of wall between them? As if he was afraid of not measuring up to her, as he wasn't good enough!? And Käbi in turn admired Bergman a lot, and went on admiring him a lot after they were divorced. She reffered to Bergman when we had lessons for her. Bergman had said this and that, for instance about body-language. I think Käbi awoke my intellectual interests - and my curiosity of Bergman?? (how it is with them now!! Quite self-ironically).
Both these two persons suffered from severe sleeping-problems... Laretei walked in her sleep, even when she was pregnant with their son Daniel (even fell in a stair during her pregnancy?), and she still walks in her sleep now in her eighties.
Yesterday we had a masterclass with six of our students from the Higher Music Course (only boys or young men, no girls struck me!!) with the Swedish violinist Nilla Pierrou. She wondered whom I had studied with. I mentioned Käbi.
"How was she?"Nilla asked.
"She worked on the music and interpretation, not on technical things..."I asked, a bit surprised (or not) and a little amazed.
"I saw a TV-program with her (long ago) where she was taught (probably a form of masterclass), and she was no good pupil!"
"??? Did she argue against the teacher?"
"Yes she did."Nilla replied. But we didn't argue with her as students I think (the very well-mannered girl! Trying to measure up, really, straining my whole body to do as she wanted, as I did to all teachers, the model-pupil/student really!!??)... But I think Käbi isn't (and wasn't) easy to live with? Not Bergman either (with all his women! And children here and there)...
A blogposting about people who aren't performing on top - who aren't performing MORE than on top, this person gets a diagnosis explaining why she (he) isn't perfect and more than perfect. There was an article in a Swedish paper about a woman releived getting the diagnosis ADHD...
This diagnosis gave her an explanation to why she for instance was cronically late to everything... But as the blog-owner wrote: but then she was on time in a way, because she was ALWAYS late!?? Why was she never too early?? The blogger wondered if there couldn't lie something deep down... I just sigh... Yes, can't it?? (you can and/or shall "cure" everything that stands out?? Or that is standing out too much?? Not being so visible, but not invisible either!? Clever, but not too clever! Being enough clever and visible? What I have tried my whole life? Yes, if you are depressed you have to take medicine to "cheer up", and if you are the opposite you have to take medicine to calm down! A female colleague, 9 years older than I, takes, or took, calming medicine! She doens't drive car, which is very unpractical in our work *, but have drivers-license. You have to be enough you know!! Not too much or too little!)
The blogger went on describing her own small habits quite ironically and in fact quite fun, so I had to laugh... The laugh not reaching my eyes though??
I would like to draw a blanket over me and disappear totally...
* Driving here and there with all my working-material with me (NOT a piano though, thank goodness!!), using my own, private car, sitting in all sorts of "rooms"... Glad and grateful that we are allowed to work with this... Think of all freedom we have... Yes, and despite all this I am still interested in this (fooling myself?).
2/16/2008
Being obedient and keeping quiet…
Earlier postings under the label “being obedient and keeping quiet”… Political correctness today is to consume and keeping quiet!? What would the real, genuine rebellion be??
A friend had written a blogposting this morning "Sex, gender and loyalty". And I wrote a posting on my other blog the other day on "Progress or retrogression..." And I have also recently written a posting about "A new (or old) view on man..." And yesterday one about "Provokers..."The themes in these postings: What is freedom actually? And what about being silenced? Who are being silenced and who are allowed to speak up? Who, what people, do we respect and who do we respect less, even look down on? Why? Some are worth more, others less? (some are met with contempt for their weakness and inability, but threated as they were entirely insensitive). Who are what and why? How come? And who are looked down upon??
What is actual freedom of choice, the honor of being human –what is that?, Paulo Freire and the pedagogy of the oppressed (who are actually oppressed and why?), about culture, the wish for unquestioning, unresisting obedience, working like beavers, keeping quiet and not whining or complaining… Taking yourself in the collar - if you have one?? As always , it is the victim's fault??
And that about oppression…
We can fight about who the oppressed are and if anyone actually is oppressed?? But what about mutual respect, where all are met equally? With the same respect and response?? And demanding the same responsibility of all (but more of the ones with most power!!??). Wouldn't it lie in all involveds interest ? But, yes, it is probably very painful... So we avoid it? And, no, you can't change anyone else! You can't tell "You should! You ought to!" Each person must realize her/himself?? And that can be very painful if the person you like (or think you like)don't want to change?? And what can our needs (of changing another person) be about?
Each one of us have responsibility for ourselves, what we do, say etc.
And if you have no one else to oppress, who do you then oppress? The cat on the rope...
Is oppression something innate? I don’t think so… I don’t think all has needs to oppress anyone else. That there doesn’t have to be a fight about power, who is above and who is below.
And I think these relations are the best?? There you can really enjoy each others?? You can relax and use your energy on other things?? On more constructive and life-giving, life-supporting?
Life is no lack of pain, and will never be?? But you can handle it better or worse?? Depending on how much you have in your backpack – or how little?? If you have little (or have got the opportunity or had the luck to process what you have, or had, there) you handle inevitable difficulties better?? And hopefully don’t contribute to harm, to wars (bigger OR smaller) etc.?
What is true compassion, empathy, care? And genuine respect?
How was it now with Procrutes bed?
"Procrustes (the stretcher), also known as Damastes (subduer) and Polypemon (harming much), is a figure from Greek mythology. He was a bandit from Attica, with a stronghold in the hills outside Eleusis.People being adjusted... To a norm, that wasn't really communicated by the power? Smart!! People don't knowing exactly what to react on?? I see a father in a family here... Exercising power, and reigning by terror. Changing the rules as suites him.
There, he had an iron bed into which he invited every passerby to lie down. If the guest proved too tall, he would amputate the excess length; but if the victim was found wanting in height, they were then stretched out on the rack until they gained the required inches.
Nobody would ever fit in the bed because it was secretly adjustable: Procrustes would stretch or shrink it upon sizing his victims from afar [!!!! I didn't know this part of the story before].
Procrustes continued his reign of terror until he was captured by Theseus, who 'fitted' Procrustes to his own bed and cut off his head and feet (since Theseus was a stout fellow, the bed had been set on the short position). Killing Procrustes was the last adventure of Theseus on his journey from Troezen to Athens."
And we see this in other circumstances: where some are squeezed into a form, made smaller etc.? And being silenced of different reasons... And in different manners?
Of many things, of regard for others who would feel too small if this wasn't done?? Oh, what view on man??? Were do our values lie?? How do we value man? Who are valuable and who less valuable?
Procrustes was an oppressor!!? And there are other smaller (and subtler) oppressors here and there??
Maybe we don't see this ourselves!!?? That (when) we behave as our fathers (or mothers) behaved?? But it IS a difference when it comes to our behavior against other grown ups compared to that of kids??? But, yes, we have always responsibility for our behavior. How harmed we even are. As grow ups we ought to be able to talk about it... But yes, I guess this can be extremely painful... Why we often avoid it... No, this isn't easy!!!! But shouldn't the "understanding" be mutual??
Still feeling out of balance... An older friend said to me that I am thinking so swiftly and make connections between things, in a way all don't, and that this could be disturbing for some (!!!! Of course shall think of this!!??)...
Maybe I am like this as teacher too?? Making all sorts of connections between things?? But I am balancing this by being an organizer too?? Yes, I think this old friend also had noticed this actually? It can be too much of this; it can be harmful for myself if it isn't harming anyone else??? Enormously responsible-taking!!?? Too much still?? This people also have seen? And appreciated, and maybe also taken advantage of and relied on (let me work).
And our "director of studies" once said something about my loyalty to my work-place (oh, I get creepy feelings in my capillary matrix).
Hmmm, yes, I guess I AM artistic??? That I in fact have such talents?? Writing and saying it - scary... Hearing, seeing, sensitive (in a way and probably less in other ways?? Yes, I think one can be both/and!)... But we (still) have prejudices about artist-people that they are bohemians and no organizers??? It probably is in some (or even many) in cases, but it isn't always so!!?? Many aren't, otherwise they wouldn't have reached the level they have??
And maybe that's a problem for me; that I have interests in a lot of directions??? Not focused (in that manner)??
And it is true that I am a clever girl!!?? But I wonder if that isn't harming myself more than others??? Harming myself not so little sometimes??
And on top not valuing myself really!!?? Some can't understand this? They can't put it together?? But others see it? That I am not taking a lot of space, and is wanting and needing to be seen and have all the light on me... In fact, that's something scary... Having the light on me, people looking at me, listening. watching?? While there at the same time is so much I want to communicate!! And express. Touch...
I am seldom neutral when I am speaking about things? But I can still be very shy and quiet?
Being allowed to speak up and use the voice you have... That you should be allowed?? Who and what do we silence? And who are allowed to speak up and allow themselves to speaking up?
The effects/results of silencing people??
And, yes, many men ARE bullies, and they have to stand for it!!!
Came to think of Jane Fonda and her autobiography (also see here), where she writes that she until her sixties adapted to the men she had and about her strivings to please them in all possible ways (including joining group-sex with prostitutes when she was married to Roger Vadim and lived in Paris. Not wanting to be accused of being "bourgeois"!! A bit funny today, when things are so "bourgeois"!!). And she looked really great!! Not to loose them... Denying herself and who she actually was... She writes about her eating-disorders (bulimia)...
If we want to Break any Walls Down where do we start?? Or try to start?
"...with adult freedom and responsibility come the potential to break silence, to use voice and language to promote internal integration, deeper external connection, and a social transformation.
Through communication – integration within ourselves and connection between individuals – we can become whole; embodied, aware, vital, powerful”
(Jennifer Freyd in the chapter 'Removing Blinders, Becoming Connected' in her book 'Betrayal Trauma…').
1/20/2008
Pippi...

A reflection all of a sudden: Pippi, the rebel, meant a lot for Tommy and Annika?? The two well-mannered children. With her attitude of questioning things, her way of living, her whole appearance... Stockings in two different colors, the shoes and cloths, the red-hair... Slept with her shoes on and the feet on the pillow... Let her horse walk into he house. When she should clean the floors in her house she put the brushes on her feet and skated around there!!
"Can one really do like that???"Look at the picture below! Tommy and Annika peeping over the fence, with big eyes and dropped chins!!
But how was it actually for Pippi? Under the surface? Did she hide something? Did she sacrifice something? Was she allowed to express everything or only certain things?
"I have my monkey and horse and the house Villavillekulla, and a lot of money..."Strong independent... Not needy... I wonder with a lump in my throat..
PS. And the grown up world found themselves in this? That a child lived alone in a big house. No, they tried to put Pippi on a children's home, even tried to force her there with the help of two constables, but Pippi refused to be taken there. The constables couldn't handle her. Pippi was so strong so she lifted them up and threatened them with throwing them away. Or did she actually throw them away? I don't remember (how many children wish they could do that or something like that? That they had the strength to protect themselves? Even if it isn't verbalized or thought in real thoughts?).
Of two bad things she choose the less bad; to have the (relative) freedom living in her own house, with her monkey and horse...
And if one should take this further to real life and real children!!?? Struck me...
PPS. And that about women's voices: are they needed to be heard, or...? You can really wonder... Do we need them at all?? Do women have anything to say? Do they have anything to contribute with? Or do only some have something to say? And what is the most important: what you say or how you say it, seen formally...?
When people raise their voices it must be done in a certain way? And even more if it is woman raising her voice? Then she must do it perfectly??? And not so seldom she has these demands on herself too?? Even if she dares to put them aside, or challenge this by nevertheless raise her voice and try to communicate and speak out loud, despite if how she says it isn't perfect seen to grammar etc.
How many voices have been silenced on the road?
And who keep on raising their voices? Not troubled of the impression they make? Who are more bothered an concerned about the outer appearance even if one maybe don't think they do??
Silently wondering... In fact not so gladly...
It has been things on this road, so now it is soon too much???
But my wish and need to express things has been greater than all self-criticism, and it still seems to be a little greater than this criticism... Because after all, I don't think I am totally stupid?? That I don't realize my limitations at all... Because I do? Or don't I?
Once again, concerning my work, research has found that women have more problems with stage-fright than men... What can this mean? Even there women's voices have become silent?
And it's not only talent or capacity that are the prerequisites for a career as musician, I think I read this recently in a book I have referred to on another forum, that you need someone on the road believing in you and supporting you.
And in the music-history men are dominating... And they are still dominating... Even if things are better" there today. And, of course, men also can have handicapping troubles with stage-fright!!!
Who gets (the) support, and who gets less support???
Strikes me now about my youngest brother, during summer-vacation from his education (to medical engineer at college) he worked at hospital. He in fact reacted, with a smile (a little ironic??), that he thought he got differently treated than the young women...
But I am not at all striving for any career in this work!!! I am satisfied with how it is... Sometimes it feels as I would like to move out into nowhere and disappear...
Harshly beating myself, you stupid, lousy, bad... No, not so glad, no...
Working and working, tired to death!!! With this not said that anyone is forcing me! Of course it is "my own fault"!!!
I wonder what this is triggering: people talking above my head, as if I didn't exist? And had nothing to say? As if what I have to say is so shamy?? And the way I do it is too??
Struggling with this, and in fact challenging this side!?
The "funny thing" is that a female physician (psychiatrist and gestalt-therapist), I didn't visit as a client in therapy though, said to me that I should dare to do things less perfect or how I shall express it!! In a similar manner as a young woman sick-paid for exhaustion was encouraged to deliberately spell words wrong when she wrote, to challenge her perfectionism, allow herself to be more human or something like that...
And, what is behind or beyond (??) these perfectionist demands, or the rebellion against them (which doesn't exclude blushing cheeks)? Who help one with this? Who want to know about them? Maybe last of all a physician (the clever girl or boy)??
Astrid Lindgren's Emil, among her all other strong children-figures (many a bit rebellion!?), got a fairly high position in society... A position with societal power... Noone else of her figures did?? Pippi never grew up?? What happened to her?
Earlier postings on disobedient child (both in Swedish and in English).
1/18/2008
The rebellion...
Pippi Longstocking at school.A reply to the leader about homo ludens triggered more thoughts and reflections (a lot more)...
The background to Pippi: spring 1941 Astrid Lindgren's seven-year-old daughter Karin was sick in pneumonia and she told her mother (ordered her!!??) that she wanted to hear a story about Pippi Longstocking (so it was the daughter's whole idea about Pippi Longstocking. Lindgren started to romance about Pippi with enormous fantasy. And with the stories about Pippi Lindgren amused not only her daughter but also her friends!
And the model for the red-haired Pippi exists in real life: a red-haired friend to the daughter Karin, a girl daring to do things that wasn't allowed then!?
When Lindgren one day had sprained the foot, she started to write those stories down. When Karin turned 10 she got these stories in birthday present. And Lindgren sent the manuscript to the Albert Bonniers förlag, but the story got refused!!
Lindgren revised her book and made Pippi a little more house trained than the original Pippi, and sent it to another publishing house Rabén & Sjögren, where it got accepted. It awoke a hot debate: Should all children start to behave like Pippi now?? Horrible thought!
Yes, what was this book the expression of then back in 1941?? The book about that rebellion girl... What child refused to go to school then? And dared to put her feet on the desk like on the picture? Or question things? Least of all the authority. No, children should be obedient and keep quiet...
The first book about Pippi was the first book I read on my own, had borrowed it from the school-library - a brand new world opened for me!!!
Miller writes about how increasing violence among young people can - and is- attributed lack of rules and limit setting... A sort of weakness among those raising children...
But what is the truth? Actually... Came to think about Arthur Silbers essays on Miller, where "obedience" is mentioned once and again... He shows (is pointing out) results of the obedience-culture!!??
See former blogpost on homo ludens, and the one about the scapegoats.
And Lindgren was 38 years when her writing-career started! She hadn't grown up as the only child, on the contrary, they were four siblings in a nuclear family with two parents, non-divorced, living at the countryside in the south of Sweden (Vimmerby, Småland, in the county Kronoberg I think).
It stood in a reader's review on Pippi, that today she would have been diagnosed with DAMP!!! See earlier postings about hyperactive children.



