The enormous importance of the parenting and care taking style and of not exposing children to stress...

A quick blogposting in the morning, spontaneously thinking loudly.

Read the article ”How Childhood Trauma Can Cause Adult Obesity”.

Reducing the stress, already for the not born baby and by treating it with the greatest respect during its whole childhood (and understanding its "inadequate" reactions), is of enormous importance, not only for the individual and her/his future life and life quality, but also for the society and the world.

With other words we have to treat the children with love, genuine love, and if we can't genuinely love we should be willing to explore why; if it has with us or in fact with the child to do. Maybe what the child is triggering in us.

But if you became stressed and didn't get what you needed early I think you can recover later, with a lot of work though, and recover if your painful experiences aren't/haven't been played down. And by that adults recognize what is actually painful, thus needed to be repressed and/or played down, experiences that are still remaining in the body with all what that means, for the individual and her/his environment wherever this person is in the society.

And this has nothing to do with forgiveness. Even if forgiveness probably can feel good for the moment, because what you are ding when you are forgiving is to deny (more or less) what was done and how painful and even harmful and not right it actually was (meeting evil with evil doesn't solve anything, not even when it comes to a parent meeting a small child's evilness with punishments).

See what Alice Miller has written about this with forgiveness, for instance in "Decepetion Kills Love."

Also see the preface to Alice Miller's book "From Rage to Courage."

And it's crucial how we meet children who have already become traumatized and who are stressed (maybe showing it in hyperactivity) later on. That we are willing to listen to them and not expose them for even more stress and pressure. I'm very critical to the current school politics and they who are responsible for it (and oher politics) in the Swedish government today. See David Korten being shocked that countries like Sweden are on their way of copying his home country USA when it comes to economic politics (causing increasing inequality with everything that follows in the footsteps of this).

And what is hyperactivity about? What is ADHD etc. actually?

The article points out that a child being exposed to another parenting style than her mother's (father's or parents') changes her/his future parenting style. So a child born to a neglectful parent who is raised by a caring caretaker becomes a caring caretaker for her/his children later.

The article also refers to research showing that early stress causes a lot of health troubles of different kinds. Troubles that could become avoided.

I think those (we) could be healed to different degrees if they (we) were allowed to admit to the things we have been exposed and were allowed to call early (and later) experiences in question.

Also read the blogposting (my translation of the heading of the posting from Norwegian to English, but the text in the posting is in English) "Adverse Childhood Experiences and Psychosis."

Stress increases the risk for rheumatism...

Lars Alfredsson.

Yes, stress can cause different sorts of rheumatism, not only rheumatoid, but also for instance polymyalgia rheumatica, which a person near to me maybe has. A person probably suffering from longterm stress, and with a history of child abuse of different kinds. Abuse that is denied, or in parts recognized but considered having no real significance for this person's life, from that person herself, and probably many around her.

Thought of blogging about something I thought was interesting, from a Swedish site called Suntliv.nu. I want to start with relating to the content in the article:

Low control at work increases the risk for rheumatoid arthritis. A new Swedish study shows that the one who doesn’t decide over her/his work situation runs the risk of getting rheumatoid arthritis. It’s an endemic disease with over 50,000 people stricken by it in Sweden (with a population of 9 million people). Women are more often stricken than men.

“We have found clear connections between the disease and works where you can’t control your situation,”

the Swedish professor Lars Alfredsson says.

Other factors for getting ill are smoking and low education.

The researchers have also found some unexpected connections, namely between stress at work and rheumatoid arthritis.

The ones with low space for (own) decisions have a 60 % higher risk of being stricken.

The researchers also classified people in different professions after how low respective high control they have and compared people in professions with low control with people with high control concerning the risk of getting ill.

In that investigation they showed that it is 30 % higher risk for people in professions with low control to get ill.

Stress causes inflammation they mean and think it’s possible that stress makes inflammation come up.

Studies abroad has shown that the ones stricken with rheumatoid arthritis often have had a period of stress or experienced something revolutionary before the debut of the disease.

The researchers have also asked the participants about different sorts of stress and are now analyzing the connections between stress, results which are going to become presented later.

The study is also about interplay between inheritance and milieu.

My loud thinking around this article: I read this article after I had blogged about the young woman Veronika with rheumatoid arthritis whose psychiatrists didn’t believe her when she said she had been raped, and who showed to have been sexually abused as a child too.

I also came to think of two men I know of who got rheumatism as adults, one after a divorce in middle age and the other when he had passed 75 I think. The latter also got heart problems at the same time. I wonder over the latter and the relation he lives in and possible stress in that relation, a relation that easily could make you feel a little out of control?

The latter man was spanked as a child I think. Something he doesn’t seem to really question or view as wrong, or really rebel against. Something that was natural then and "what all parents did” because they "didn’t know better"?

I think I have read somewhere about connections between spanking and rheumatism too.

Thinking loudly, and trying to put something in words I am not really capable of putting in words yet. Being in a relation or maybe situation feeling a low control could also be a feeling that is fooling a person... Because he or she can actually have the power to leave it in may cases. But is feeling stuck and power and helpless, maybe even feels paralyzed (as the child ones was). Early feelings that are triggered in the present and feels so real so the person doesn’t see any alternatives, truly doesn’t see them. But those feelings stemming from early events in this persons life aren’t just to control. As we think we can. And are nothing to moralize over...