me, mom and my little brother in Överkalix.
the fourth sibling, a brother, christened in Umeå, where we lived. I am standing there looking down on my hands. We, the oldest three children, are wearing the child-variant of Rättviksdräkten. Mom had sewed them. I am almost 5, 5 years, L. 4 years, E. 2 years And P Å newborn. When I had just turned 7 a sister was born, and 5, 5 years later the last child, a sister. And that was the whole!! And here am I as grown up. 
”He seemed to be so interested in her, thought she was so cute? So he followed her everywhere during the hay-harvest festival!”
the small girl’s mom said much later when the daughter saw the photo.
The daughter wondered if this small girl was fond of dancing, of being seen… Asked her mom.
Her parents weren’t really aware of this interest then, the interest from the photographer from the newspaper visiting and photographing the festival. After the festival some photos suddenly appeared in the newspaper! The first time she was in a newspaper. When she was 2, 5. Not the last...
She had a lot of fantasy her mother said and thought. Yes, she ended up in a creative work. A work noone had had earlier in her family or among her relatives. Not as dancer though, but in something nearly connected - music.
Her father was teacher, at this school.
and here is the whole family one year earlier, the little brother once again as an even smaller baby, only two or three months. On the first picture in this posting he was 14, 5 months? The small girl was not 2, 5 years yet on that picture.
"It's not just water under the bridge."
ACEs are surprisingly common among people of all social strata, and have far-reaching consequences. For many people, it's not possible to "just get over it".
What's an ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience i.e. "skadlig barndomserfarenhet")?
Adverse Childhood Experience is growing up experiencing any of the following conditions in the household prior to age 18:
1. Recurrent physical abuse
2. Recurrent emotional abuse
3. Contact sexual abuse
4. An alcohol and/or drug abuser in the household
5. An incarcerated household member
6. Someone who is chronically depressed, mentally ill, institutionalized, or suicidal
7. Mother is treated violently
8. One or no parents
9. Emotional or physical neglect
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This is a blog, with my (sometimes very) personal - and loud reflections on what I read, see, hear, react on, feel for - and not feel for and want to explore. I don't work in this field at all, but I have my reflections and thoughts nevertheless and have read fairly a lot I think, and here I reflect upon all this. I am searching myself forward.
I link sites for information, if one want to know more about what I am talking/writing about and what is mentioned in the texts I am citing and referring to. And I link sites not least for my own sake. So it isn’t sure I agree with all that is linked on this blog, that's not why I link sites. I can agree with parts of what is linked, bigger or smaller, from almost everything to almost nothing.
And when it comes to therapy and all (self)help-concepts I think one shall be very careful. Maybe as a friend said it:
“Meaningful critical thinking.
Psychotherapists have been claiming that they have invented better treatment methods since Sigmund Freud in 1897. The amount of psychological distress in the world hasn’t become less. There’s money to be made from attracting more clients, whether the therapy works or not.
Also see Miller’s FAQ-list “How to Find the Right Therapist.”
Questions that can give one ideas about what to ask.
A dissertation on"Critical Thinking in Scholarship - Meanings, Conditions and Development" by Eva Brodin.
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