"This is consonant with the idea that ‘leadership’ is composed of the most backwards psychoclasses.
Question: Why is that? That is, why is ‘leadership’ composed of the most backwards psychoclasses? /…/
I have written elsewhere (and in previous posts) on the origins of political power [and why are some given power? Why does the people give certain people power, even the highest power in a society, whether formal or informal, on different levels? What do those have in their early history?].
In the gynarchy (female subculture) women restaged their abuse and warded off their annihilation anxiety by emulating their abusive mothers.
In the androcracy (male subculture) men, who did not become mothers, had to restage and combat their annihilation anxiety in other ways. One of the ways they did so was by developing politics and political power [or in anger]. So power is pathological. If you want to avoid using medical terms; power is a defense. It follows then that the people who are more defended (in certain ways) are more attracted to political power.
[and power in general in the society!? I think the ones that would become the best leaders, for instance on workplaces, don’t seek those jobs, because they realize the problems with being a leader. The researchers Christina Maslach and Michael P. Leiter thought the workplaces and companies were at risk of becoming drained on their best work labor, because either they would become burnout or try to leave and start their own businesses, with all the troubles connected to this and what this would cost for the companies, workplaces, the democracy the society, the societal economy. And so far I have had the incomes so I can buy and read a lot of books. More privileged than many in this world, even though I only have middle-incomes! Grew up and still belong to the middle class, maybe grew up in the somewhat upper middle class].”
I thought further on my maternal grandparents and how they survived the pressure on them (in the working class. Addition: I think I belong to the “working” class too!).
We live in much more complicated societies than our first ancestors lived, in societies with the potential to really destroy everything on this earth; the nature, all human beings.
My great grandparents and their generation, and in the generations before them, didn’t really have those means.
I also came to think how does the history look when it comes power-mad? To money and property mad (having limitless needs, needs that can never become filled, the person never becomes satisfied, is about persons trying to fill needs they can never fill afterwards, because that time has passed, but what does this cause other people, if not the whole society, but the persons nearest to them)?
And societies with many disturbed because of the ways that were in fashion raising children (as for instance in Germany decades before WWII, and probably also occurring in societies in wars and lots of conflicts today too)?
That our grandparents (in my generation), being under and standing with their caps in their hands, bowing for their employers managed their lives (in greater poverty than almost all people today?) how did they? Were they stronger, or what? The illnesses came late in life for them. See about the ACE-study. I think Miller wonders if Hitler had needed his leader role (that much) if he had a lot of children, and been able to abreact the horrible abuse he endured during his childhood on them.
Did they because they could abreact their frustrations on their kids, it was your duty to educate your children, and the method was spanking them and making so they didn’t think they were anybody (by using emotional and verbal violence)?
Men abreacted on their wives and kids if they weren’t in a power position (then they probably mistreated the persons standing them nearest in different ways, more or less subtle), and women in turn on their kids (if they couldn’t react at their husbands, on whom they were dependent)?
Women abreacted the abuse they had endured during their childhood (and their under order in the whole society) and their fear of becoming annihilated by copying their mothers (and/or fathers). Men sought power in the society, and if this wasn’t possible they abreacted their early experiences and latter humiliation they experienced in the society, at work etc. too on their kids (and wives. But women have been abusive too at not only their kids!). As was the case when I grew up.
In this way they survived, didn’t become sick in the first place, and had a feeling of some sort of power and control (the therapists Ingeborg Bosch and Jean Jenson, maybe among others, think you get a feeling of power and control through anger and/or denial of needs) ?
I also wondered: real equality, real freedom, (that all people have the same say, are equally worth, get the same respect as everybody else) in the society and the world is that the real prerequisites? How do we create this? The best and probably only method is changing childrearing methods even more than we have already done? There’s still quit a lot to do there I would say.
Among a lot of other things I have been thinking on having nothing to say to a human being standing near. The feeling of loneliness this can create.
Struck me that Jennifer Freyd had said something on this theme I thought (about things you can’t talk about).
She writes in the chapter “Removing Blinders, Becoming Connected” at page 194 in her book “Betrayal Blindness – The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse”:
“If you are blind to the evidence that your intimate partner is having an affair, you may manage to keep the relationship from ending. But what sort of relationship is it, and what purpose does it serve?”
Having nothing to say to each other, becoming distant because you exclude (or have to hide) important things…
A leader writer wrote in the leader “Lessons from a demonstration” today about a demonstration here in Sweden against the bombings of Gaza by the Israelis as follows in my a little free translation:
“The tragic thing is the tail (train) of so called autonomous anarchists, masked and violent, that is becoming a real burden both for the left and for the right /…/ and for the whole democracy – not to talk about how they are blackening the anarchism’s great tradition of thoughts. Their record during this decade so far is frightening.
For example they contributed to the destruction of parts of the credibility for the Attac-movement and the last years this ‘movement’ [the autonomous anarchists] is well on the road to transforming the country’s right-populists to martyrs, as when they are walking at the head of sabotaging the meetings the Sweden-democrats have the right holding.
It is high time scolding these autonomous, whom by the way not at all are autonomous but are living in symbiosis with the police and right extremes, and to establish that they are cowards and that they are destroying for a serious left. /…/
In reality Björklund is making a conflict ethnic that ought to be seen exclusively in terms of international law and human rights.
In this way he contributes to the destruction of the democracy’s publicity.”
Spontaneously this leader and earlier thoughts on similar issues gave me these thoughts:
“The enjoyment of destroying. Voting for politicians and parties pursuing a policy which in fact treats oneself unfairly. A pleasure or enjoyment in this, are they feeling?
A form of sadomasochism or self destructiveness?”
From where does this come? From nowhere?
No, I don’t think so. It comes from (probably extremely) cruel treatment of those persons when they were kids, by their parents. Humiliation of the child.
But these experiences are no excuse for their behavior today.
“I call the violent kind of ‘upbringing’ abuse, not only because children are thus refused the right to dignity and respect as human beings, but also because such an approach to parenting establishes a kind of totalitarian regime in which it is impossible for children to perceive the humiliations, indignities, and disrespect they have been subjected to, let alone to defend themselves against them. These patterns of childhood will inevitably then be adopted by their victims and used on their partners, and their own children, at work, in politics, wherever the fear and anxiety of the profoundly insecure child can be fended off with the aid of external power. It is in this way dictators are born, these are people with a deep-seated contempt for everyone else, people who were never respected as children and thus do their utmost to earn that respect at a later stage with the assistance of the gigantic power apparatus they have built up around them
The sphere of politics is an excellent example of the way in which the hunger for power and recognition is never stilled.”
Things I threw down in my diary after starting to read about a child's experiences:
"Pushed into a corner. Siblings with alloted roles. A parent exercising power. Acting her/his things out? Things that had nothing to do with the child/ren.
Breaking the child's will?
Jenson wrote in her book about abuse of a more subtle sort and thus more difficult to see or grasp [as she seems to see it. Now I see in the Introduction that she writes that because her experiences of growing up in a dysfunctional family * weren't so apparent - she wasn't beaten and usually not shouted at either - it took a long time for her to understand how her childhood had affected her. Not until she had been in traditional therapies for years she discovered how you can uncover experiences that had been unconscious. Then she understood why and how childhood experiences still affected (disrupted, disturbed, interrupted, spoiled, marred) her life].
Reacting at scapegoats only give temporary relief..."
I had a father coming home and acting his irritation, anger, frustration out... Incapable of being present really... He was never really there. Impatient. Have I adopted parts of this? Though in a female way? (But I have been admired for my enormous patience in many circumstances, for instance in my work...)
Was he ever aware of this or even wondering over this? Did he ever question this side of his? Did he understand the roots for this ever? Did he want to understand? Did he have to understand?
Are other people forced to understand because their alternatives/options are none? And other people have the possibility to come home and pour things out and thus stay "healthy" and sane?
He died in malign melanoma when he was almost 83, 5 years. He was never a sunbather. Stress research has shown connections between depression and skin cancer... Searched on this on the net and found this.
Links between diabetes and depression see here for instance.
* Jenson has written in her book about the results of just changing dysfunctional behavior to a functional; that it too often doesn't change so much (however a method that is most often used, i.e. you just understand these things with your brain). The feelings are often the same or even worse after this sort of therapy... You need to understand these things on a deeper level, get help understanding them on a deeper level. If you have to do this work on your own it will take a lot of time...
But physicians like Vincent Felitti, Anna Luise Kirkengen and Eli Berg for instance have shown that just giving a patient the opportunity to speak up, break silence can lead to tremendous relief and recovery.
When I was writing about the school and health I came to think about hyperactive children. Some children react with hyperactivity (like ADHD) and others with being noisy and in some cases they even react with violence.
See the posting about the Swedish documentary "The Scapegoats" (with a letter to Alice Miller on this documentary) and also here about his documentary on how children behave in school due to being (in this case in first hand) spanked at home. About children directing things at other people than those who originally abuse them.
A quiet thought: and this easily triggers abusive counter reactions from responsible in school, making the bad even worse... So we dealing with kids ought to have a lot of self-knowledge! And being interested in developing it. Many of us ought to be interested in this, not only a few. But I as a single teacher maybe can't create miracles in the whole milieu? In the best cases for single students.
And there are probably also kids being silent and clever, hiding things (maybe even carrying heavy loads, of abuse, maybe subtle, on their shoulders, pretending to themselves everything is fine at home) managing to reach adulthood and enter into it quite successfully, but who later end in smaller or bigger crisis of different kinds, in important relations, with people close; people they live with or are having close relations with, or with troubles at work (as being too clever there as they have always been, maybe managing everything on their own, not asking for help, afraid of being a nuisance), landing in what we call the 40-year crisis. But what are those crisis about in the bottom?
“With support of the enlightened witness represented by such a therapist, a hyperactive child (or a child suffering from any other disorder) can be encouraged to feel its perturbation [förvirring eller oordning in Swedish], rather than acting it out, and to articulate its feelings to the parents, rather than fearing them and dissociating from them. In this way the parents can learn from the child that one can have feelings without heeding to fear disastrous consequences, that, on the contrary, something can develop from this which gives support and creates mutual trust.
I know of a mother who was actually able to escape from the destructive attachment to her parents thanks to her own child. After several years of therapy, she was still concerned to see the good sides of her parents even though she had been severely abused in her childhood. She suffered greatly from the hyperactive and aggressive outbursts of her little daughter, who had been under continual medical care since birth. The routine had been the same for years. She took her child to the doctor, gave her the medicine prescribed for her, went to see her therapist regularly, and went on seeking justifications for her own parents. At a conscious level, she never suffered because of her parent’s treatment of her, only because of her daughter.
One day, however, she finally flew into a rage in the company of a new therapist and was finally able to admit to the extreme anger at her parents that had been pent up inside her for thirty years. And then the miraculous thing happened (although it was anything but a miracle): in the space of a few days, her daughter played started to play normally, lost all her symptoms, asked questions, and was given straightforward answers. It was as if the mother had emerged from a dense fog and was seeing her daughter properly for the first time. A child who is not being used as the object of projections can play quietly without having to run around like a mad all the time. She no longer has the hopeless task of saving her mother, or at least of confronting her with the truth by means of her own ‘disorder’.
This morning I happened to read a strip in the local newspaper from the cartoon Nemi by Lisa Myhre, something I don't use to. But today I did of some reason...
The strip above is from another newspaper, and is another one than the one I have translated below.
"I want to be together with somebody who comes along with everything! Who sees it as a matter of course that we shall go visiting people together. We shall be a couple."
The other woman, Cyan (the blonde woman), replies:
"I want to have, I wish, somebody who understands that one has to have separate lives too."
Nemi:
"One who knows when to back away. Who doesn’t hang around all the time when the buddies comes or clings on to one when one shall go out."
Cyan:
"Are you talking about the man you want to have?"
Nemi:
"I’m talking about the man that I want you shall want to have."
This couple got 17 children in 21 years. From 1884 to 1905. They were both born 1856, so they were 28 when they got their first child and 49 when they got their last. One child died at birth the others lived to adult age, and the average age of those children is over 83 years I think. Did they get their children of free will? Was it God's gift they got so many children?Was it of love of children they got so many children? Or how come they got so many? Not their own free will getting so many? They were Leastadians... And lived near the Arctic Circle in Sweden, in a fairly tough climate thus... How did they manage this? And how did all these children survive? They lived i a small village with only two families. The other family had as many children, but those children died of tuberculosis. None in the family of the couple above got that disease. How come?
Found information about the book and there you could read something in the style that: Who owns your thoughts? From you open your eyes till you go asleep in the evening you are exposed to an endless stream of trials to persuasions and influences. Each time you turn the radio on, open a book or walk into a shop someone tries to make ideas grow in your head.
An author here in Sweden has written a book about how you become influenced and complaisant whether it’s about personal, political or commercial circumstances. Knowledge about those things gives you tools you can use if you for instance want get a political idea through, start yoga for the personnel on work time or start a sect with some friends.
But this book also opens your eyes for how the war about your brain is carried out. The difference between selling toothpaste and a politician is maybe smaller than you think.
But I think it’s more to say about this…
A person less exposed to child abuse as a child is less prone to becoming influenced by brainwashing. But the problem is that so many have been exposed to child abuse of some kind or another. If not physical or sexual, so emotional; by being laughed at, belittled, minimized, surrounded by a wall of silence to make one compliant and “kind” and so on. But sexual and physical abuse is more common than we believe.
Some more loud thinking: Struck me this morning about therapists talking about a client’s needs for control… At the same time experts talk about the importance of having a feeling that you have things under control, for instance to avoid exhaustion or burnout. You shall but shall not. In one circumstance you shall let control go and in another control is important. Confusing!? And does this promote integration, healing or recovery actually? Why do therapists use this/these method(s)? Is it because they can’t deal with what’s at the bottom of this problem really, or too many times hardly at all: The child once with no control, who had find itself in situations and circumstances help and powerlessly?
And if the latter adult doesn’t get help processing this she/he will continue to have problems with these things, bigger or smaller, depending on early experiences!? More or less visible? Because a clever client can manage to hide further and continued problems both to her/his therapist and her/himself??? But sooner or less the problems will show up again in some form.
Something Alice Miller actually has written about, when she has written about therapies. For instance in her last books “The Truth Will Set You Free” and “The Body Never Lies.” About therapies covering the problems and giving temporary relief, and in some occasions more long term.
The so called helpers run the power’s errands (går maktens ärenden) in fact! Even the factual power today, meaning the power in society too.
And for instance the Norwegian physician Anna Luise Kirkengen talks about revictimization, which means people becoming abused again in health care and other so called help situations. Something that can occur and has occurred in forums concerning our childhoods!!?? So it actually exists an expression for this!!!
Yes, it’s strange: children need regulations and restrictions. Because of their inherited traits and drives??
But adult people don’t need any regulations or restrictions? Or some DO need, but others don’t!?? It depends. On what actually (quite ironically)? On what power you have? How much money you have? And who has the power and money in this world?
If we were capable of showing children true, genuine respect, then…?
Now we have to use other means!? Threats, manipulation, regulations, limit setting etc.
There are boundaries and boundaries.
We treat our children differently, because they have different needs we say!? Girls (already the very small, yes, the small baby) have certain needs, boys (small boys, already the small baby-boy) others we claim (what are those claims actually about?). (And) what do we actually know about those needs or what are those ideas actually mirroring? Are those ideas a protection against a too painful truth? And an excuse for how we behave, how we actually feel, that we don't feel the same for the different individuals? The solution to that is to admit that we feel differently, it's just like that it is!!?
A female cousin actually admitted recently that girls and boys are valued differently! Boys are a little more worth... She doesn't have any brothers, as I have, only a (2 year older) sister. Admitted that her mother values boys and girls differently. She had namely just met my two brothers and was so charmed by them! It felt to me that she would never say anything like this about the female part of the "family"!!! How cute, charmy, nice etc. a female part was... But do I as grown up need such a confirmation? And if I do, why?
But both boys and girls are probably badly treated, anyway... In different and the same ways... But this causes problems later, bigger or smaller (was this also a/the reason for treating the small child badly, so she/he didn't think...??? Thinking she/he was something worth, worth being loved, worth treated good, respected,valued).
The dad not seeing his daughter, treating her as she didn’t exist and wasn't worth a nickel, as she was stupid, very little knowing. Treating her with contempt. Contempt for weakness, for insecurity… Treating her like she was shit.
The mother beating her small (and later also not so small) son… Beating HIS self-confidence out of him in a certain way.
What can we do about this later, when those two are grown up? Who has to think of who? Who has to do something about this? Who has the responsibility for making something, changing things? Only the woman? Or only the man? Or should the work come from them both actually? Don’t both of them have responsibility for trying to change the state of affairs?
Struggling on my own with everything, all different things... With differing results... Really.
In this blog I want to explore the effects of childhood experiences on individual lives, the health (not only the emotional/psychological, but also, and not least, the bodily/somatic), the society, why people seek themselves to power positions, the effect of childhood on politics.
With the ideas that imbue Alice Miller's work and writing.
And sometimes just share things I have read and come across and I agree with and couldn't have said better myself.
I work full time with young people since many years, as teacher in music (piano pedagogue), and am interested in these things, both privately/personally and professionally.
But my time is limited to write and blog, even if it probably doesn't look so.
I will devote myself to loud thinking a lot here I think. And this blog is also a way for me to collect texts, facts, links, sites I want to save for further use maybe.
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Books I am referring to on this blog:
Bosch, Ingeborg: "Rediscovering the True Self"
Freyd, Jennifer J.: "Betrayal Trauma - The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse" ISBN 0-647-06806-8
Jenson, Jean: "Reclaiming Your Life" ISBN 91-46-17409-5
Kirkengen, Anna Luise: "Hvordan krenkede barn blir syke voksne" ISBN 82-15-00713-9 ("How Abused Children Become Unhealthy Adults")
Kirkengen, Anna Luise: "Inscribed bodies - Health Impact of Childhood Sexual Abuse" ISBN 0-7923-7019-8
Lewis Herman, Judith: "Trauma and Recovery - From Domestic Violence to Political Terror" ISBN 086358430-6 (svensk översättning finns: ”Trauma och tillfrisknande” ISBN10: 9197263133, ISBN13: 9789197263139, Förlag: Göteborgs Psykoterapi Institut)
Miller, Alice: "Den dolda nyckeln" ISBN 91-46-15747-6 (The Untouched Key)
Miller, Alice: "Det självutplånande barnet och sökandet efter en äkta identitet" ISBN 91-7643-559-8 (The Drama of the Gifted Child)
Miller, Alice: "Du skall icke märka - variationer över paradistemat" ISBN 91-46-14374-2 (Thou Shalt Not Be Aware)
Miller, Alice: "Riv tigandets mur - sanning byggd på fakta" ISBN 91-46-16022-1 (Breaking Down the Wall of Silence)
Miller, Alice: "The Body Never Lies - The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting" ISBN 0-393-06065-9
Miller, Alice: "The Truth Will Set You Free - Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self" ISBN 0-465-04585-5
Miller, Alice: "Vägar i livet - sju berättelser" ISBN 91-46-17414-1 (Paths of Life - Seven Scenarios)
Pincus, Jonathan H.: "Base Instincts - What Makes Killers Kill?" ISBN 0-393-32323-4
Children baking...
Look, the joy in the children?? Enjoying what they are doing? (illustration from one of the books by Astrid Lindgren, click on the picture to go to her site).
"...of all the many forms of child abuse, emotional abuse may be the cruelest and longest-lasting of all.” "Emotional abuse is the systematic diminishment of another. It may be intentional or subconscious (or both), but it is always a course of conduct, not a single event. It is designed to reduce a child's self-concept to the point where the victim considers himself unworthy—unworthy of respect, unworthy of friendship, unworthy of the natural birthright of all children: love and protection." (Andrew Vachss)
"A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong, gives it a superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom." -- "Common Sense", Thomas Paine, January 10, 1776
"Modern education is competitive, nationalistic and separative. It has trained the child to regard material values as of major importance, to believe that his nation is also of major importance and superior to other nations and peoples. The general level of world information is high but usually biased, influenced by national prejudices, serving to make us citizens of our nation but not of the world." (Albert Einstein)
"Normal men have killed perhaps 100,000,000 of their fellow men in the last fifty years... Given these and other conditions of contemporary civilization, how can one claim that the ‘normal’ man is sane?" (R.D. Laing, 1967)
"Organizations take on characteristics of the people running them./.../ There's always pressure within groups to conform, anyway. The top monkey exerts the most pressure." (Steve Thomas)
"Yet many psychiatrists and psychologists refuse to entertain the idea that society as a whole may be lacking in sanity. They hold that the problem of mental health in a society is only that of the number of 'unadjusted' individuals, and not of a possible unadjustment of the culture itself." (Erich Fromm in The Sane Society, 1955)
When a big kid hits a little kid, we call it bullying. When an adult hits another adult, we call it assault. When the adults in a family hit each other we call it battering or domestic violence. When an adult hits a child we call it discipline..
“Blindness and lack of connectedness whether truly needed or not, are ultimately tragic solutions to life. These adaptations keep us from knowing ourselves and others fully. We end up fragmented both internally and externally – impoverished spiritually and socially /…/ it seriously constrains our human potential /…/ Survivors of childhood sexual abuse and betrayal blindness have learned to cope by being disconnected internally so as to manage a minimal kind of external connection. But with adult freedom and responsibility come the potential to break silence, to use voice and language to promote internal integration, deeper external connection, and a social transformation, Through communication – integration within ourselves and connection between individuals – we can become whole; embodied, aware, vital, powerful”(Jennifer Freyd in the chapter “Removing Blinders, Becoming Connected” in her book “Betrayal Trauma…”).
“If you are very strong you have to be very kind” (Pippi Longstocking)
“In psychiatry, too, what a person says and writes can’t be divorced from who he is and how he lives.” (Thomas Szasz).
“The method of Marshall Rosenberg is very nice and may be helpful to people who have not be[been??] severely mistreated in childhood. The latter ones however must find their pent up, LEGITIMATE rage and free themselves from the lies of our moral system. As long as they don't do this, their body will continue to scream for the truth with the help of symptoms" (Alice Miller)
“To desire and strive to be of some service to the world, to aim at doing something which shall really increase the happiness and welfare and virtue of mankind - this is a choice which is possible for all of us; and surely it is a good haven to sail for" (Henry van Dyke)
“‘I have never met a man,’ said Grandma Georgina, ‘who talks so much absolute nonsense!’ ‘A little nonsense now and then, is relished by the wisest men,’ Mr Wonka said.” (Roald Dahl)
Look at his facial expression! Angrily carving… The stubborn, disobedient child... Or? How does he feel there in his joiner's workshop? (click on the picture to go to Astrid Lindgren site).
About the ACE-study:
"It's not just water under the bridge."
ACEs are surprisingly common among people of all social strata, and have far-reaching consequences. For many people, it's not possible to "just get over it".
What's an ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience i.e. "skadlig barndomserfarenhet")? Adverse Childhood Experience is growing up experiencing any of the following conditions in the household prior to age 18:
1. Recurrent physical abuse
2. Recurrent emotional abuse
3. Contact sexual abuse
4. An alcohol and/or drug abuser in the household
5. An incarcerated household member
6. Someone who is chronically depressed, mentally ill, institutionalized, or suicidal
I don't like being photographed, and don't have many photos of myself but here are some, though fairly old! Click on the picture to see two more pictures.
I was born in Umeå in Västerbotten, Sweden, and moved during childhood stepwise to Skåne in the south, and at last back to just below the middle of Sweden where I still live.
I am educated both as piano-pedagogue and church-musician and have a full time employment as piano-pedagogue. Church-music is side work.
I am interested in a lot of things and will blog about things I read, psychology, society, history, nature, my work too hopefully, and my everyday life… And both in Swedish and English.
This is a blog, with my (sometimes very) personal - and loud reflections on what I read, see, hear, react on, feel for - and not feel for and want to explore. I don't work in this field at all, but I have my reflections and thoughts nevertheless and have read fairly a lot I think, and here I reflect upon all this. I am searching myself forward. I link sites for information, if one want to know more about what I am talking/writing about and what is mentioned in the texts I am citing and referring to. And I link sites not least for my own sake. So it isn’t sure I agree with all that is linked on this blog, that's not why I link sites. I can agree with parts of what is linked, bigger or smaller, from almost everything to almost nothing.
I hope those who perhaps find my blog are reading everything here critically - including what stands in what I link.
And when it comes to therapy and all (self)help-concepts I think one shall be very careful. Maybe as a friend said it:
“Meaningful critical thinking.
Psychotherapists have been claiming that they have invented better treatment methods since Sigmund Freud in 1897. The amount of psychological distress in the world hasn’t become less. There’s money to be made from attracting more clients, whether the therapy works or not.
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