More on corporal punishment and other forms of abuse - and possible outcomes of this...

from a walk just before lunch.

Loudly thinking... Actually I should practice and a lot else (should and should??). Am going to a birthday celebration 48 km (almost 30 miles, is that right??) away, and have taken a walk (needed). There's a lot working. I would like to scream!!! In protest over things, over all and everything. I long for the time when I can sit on my balcony, have the door open out there, not being forced to put on all these cloths. As comfort I have ordered new spring-cloths!!

Now some thoughts. Abuse is more than spanking. Does spanking result in another sort of suppressed anger than other forms of abuse, or is it a question of different forms of abuse? That takes its expression in aggression and brutality, in wars and other forms of violence? Together with self-destructiveness of different kinds (for instance more successful suicide-attempts?). While other forms of abuse more result in self-destruction, self-harm of different degrees, but not as much in aggression and brutality? The former in acting out and the latter in acting in? Generally?

Maybe this can explain (be one explanation) why suicide-rates are so high in Sweden, a country with a ban on corporal punishment? We act things in to a higher degree, and of some reason? While other societies are more violent?? I.e. people act things out there??

What am I trying to say? In countries and states with "acceptance" to corporal punishment you tend to behave more aggressively or at least some tend to behave in that way (earlier this behavior was "reserved" for men)… Women (and children) resorted to submissiveness?? In general?

With other forms of abuse the outcomes are (a bit) different??

So I believe it’s a good start to ban corporal punishment, do that sort of marking. But the next step is to acknowledge that there are other forms of abuse too, not least emotional and acknowledge the consequences of this form of abuse too!? And maybe also that sexual abuse occurs more often than we want to admit??? If not in real intercourse or such things, but in more subtle, but not less harmful ways. Maybe that we realize that what we as grown ups maybe see as harmless actually isn’t?? And that even "harmless" form actually aren't harmless, but harming. See Kirkengen and boundary-violations (in general and sexual in particular).

We have to start somewhere. Banning corporal punishment can maybe contribute to a raised awareness on other forms of abuse. Hopefully. The Norwegian doctor Anna-Luise Kirkengen writes about boundary violations in general and their consequences for (the latter) health and life-quality. She thinks as V. Felitti (ACE-study) that openness about those things can help many patients and maybe is the only needed help. Physicians should ask for the early childhood history when they are taking up the anamnesis, especially when it comes to unexplainable illness, but probably when it comes to other sorts of bad health?

And traumatic child-births, which wasn’t processed, contribute to later behavior… It has been shown that even experiences in the uterus can result in self-blame (and connected later tendencies to suicides)… See Bosch.

Swedes are seen as individualistic, with no tight ties to friends or family... People seem to think. (what are healthy ties? The question being too dependent or with no dependence-needs, see Pia Melody. See earlier postings with the label Pia Melody). It's little people on a big area (9 million on 450,000 km² or 174,000 sq mi, more facts about Sweden here), we can afford to have a lot of space around us!? It has been a fairly wealthy country the former decade at least, so we haven't been dependent on each others in the same manner as people in other countries?? We haven't been in war for 200 years, so not even there we have had needs for other people in a similar way as people in war? But what have we lost?

With this said I don't advocate challenges in form of worse security-nets... That war should be something good!!! Or that people need to be challenged (and hardened) through difficulties! "For their on good!!" I want to underline.

Swiftly written with all what that means...

PS. It's not only a friend that suddenly died, but a near relative is newly operated, so my thoughts are spread in different directions... Or how one shall express it?