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1/22/2008

Close Every Door To Me...

Close Every Door To Me...
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In this blog I want to explore the effects of childhood experiences on individual lives, the health (not only the emotional/psychological, but also, and not least, the bodily/somatic), the society, why people seek themselves to power positions, the effect of childhood on politics.

With the ideas that imbue Alice Miller's work and writing.

And sometimes just share things I have read and come across and I agree with and couldn't have said better myself.

I work full time with young people since many years, as teacher in music (piano pedagogue), and am interested in these things, both privately/personally and professionally.

But my time is limited to write and blog, even if it probably doesn't look so.

I will devote myself to loud thinking a lot here I think. And this blog is also a way for me to collect texts, facts, links, sites I want to save for further use maybe.

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      • The rebellion...
      • Removing Blinders, Becoming Connected…
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An enlightened or just knowing witness?

An enlightened or just knowing witness?
Emil, the boy, and Alfred, the farm-hand, working side by side... (Astrid Lindgren's Emil, click on the picture to get to her site).

(Skogs)murmeldjur...

(Skogs)murmeldjur...
Click on the picture to read about the woodchuck. Isn't it cute? Eating an apple or pear on a lawn on the photo. Photo: Steve Thomas.

ACE-Study Pyramide...

ACE-Study Pyramide...
Click on the picture to get to the Adverse Childhood Study.

Links...

  • A Muslim Mother’s Thoughts
  • A Remembrance - Adah Maurer
  • A. S. Neill: Summerhill Shool: A New View of Childhood
  • ACE-study - Adverse Childhood Experiences Study
  • Adolescents in specialty mental health services (BUP): time trends by Bjørn Steinar Reigstad
  • Adults Abused as Children Worldwide
  • Adverse Childhood Experience Study’s community ”partners”
  • Alice Miller on Super Nanny
  • Alice Miller's last books, about
  • Alice Miller: For Your Own Good
  • Alice Miller: The Roots of Violence are not unknown
  • Alice Miller: Thou Shalt Not Be Aware
  • ALL PHYSICIANS HAVE BEEN TRAUMATIZED a reader’s letter to Alice Miller by Bodhi Kikue Kanzeon MD
  • Amma Ireland
  • AN OPEN LETTER TO PRESIDENT OBAMA - From Children's Rights Advocates
  • Andrew Vachss at Oprah videos
  • Andrew Vachss interview: “You Carry the Cure In Your Own Heart - Emotional abuse of children can lead, in adulthood, to addiction, rage, a severely damaged sense of self and an inability to truly bond with others. But—if it happened to you—there is a way out”
  • Andrew Vachss official web site
  • Atheist Media Blog
  • Attachment Parents - BEWARE of Aware Parenting
  • Authentic Voices International
  • BarndomII
  • Barnen först
  • Birth Without Violence by: Frederick Leboyer
  • Breaking the Silence - to stop the cycle of pain
  • BRIS - Children's Rights in Society
  • British Journal for General Practice
  • Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, CDC-site (ACE-study)
  • Child Abuse and Neglect - the Need for Courage by Karen Polonko
  • Child Protection and Safety Resources by Jerry McMullin, M.A., M.L.I.S.
  • Child Trauma Academy
  • Childhood Abuse Changes the Developing Brain by Emma Patten-Hitt, Yahoo! News
  • CIC-study - the Children in Community Study
  • CSPCC - Website of The Canadian Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children – Empathic Parenting
  • D. Mackler on What Constitutes Child Abuse?
  • D. Mackler on youtube
  • Daniel Kraft, psychologist
  • DET SKAPENDE MELLOMROMMET I MØTET MELLOM PASIENT OG LEGE Av Eli Berg
  • DetentionSlip.org
  • Empathy deficits (Psych 101 revisited)
  • Familiar Quotations from the Bible/bevingade ord ur Bibeln
  • Felitti, Vincent J.: "The Relationship of Adverse Childhood Experiences to Adult Health - Turning Gold Into Lead"
  • Fullt hus-blogg
  • Functional training
  • Getz, Linn: 'Unexplainable' medical histories and childhood sexual abuse
  • How can I make my blog load faster?
  • How do I add a video to my blog?
  • Ingmar Bergman "The Demon-Lover" by John Lahr
  • Ingvar, Martin - Swedish brain researcher
  • Interview about blogging and psychic health
  • Interview with Alice Miller by Dianne Connors
  • Keeping Love Alive
  • Kicki.nu
  • Kirkengen, Anna Luise: "How Abused Children Become Unhealthy Adults"
  • LEARNING TO LIVE FREE: Life as a Former Laestadian
  • LeDoux Lab
  • Masson, Jeffey - interesting quotations
  • Masson, Jeffrey
  • Mic Hunter: "Abused Boys - the Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse" (Ballantine Books, 1990) on what sexual abuse actually is
  • Miller, Alice
  • Miller, Alice: ”For Your Own Good - Hidden cruelty in childrearing and the roots of violence”
  • My online library
  • My online photo-album
  • NAPAC – The National Association for People Abused in Childhood
  • On Arthur Janov at eqi.org
  • PARENTING WITHOUT PUNISHING - Growing & Learning in Democratic Discipline
  • Past Reality Integration therapy-site (Ingeborg Bosch)
  • Peaceful Parenting in a Peaceful World
  • Pearls Before Breakfast Can one of the nation's great musicians cut through the fog of a D.C. rush hour? Let's find out.
  • Peas and Onions - Steves blogg
  • Pet Abuse.com
  • Plain talk about spanking
  • Postkakan (the post/mail cake) :-)
  • Project No Spank
  • Psychohistorian and psychiatrist Robert Jay Lifton
  • Psychohistory list
  • Psychohistory – the Science of Historical Motivation
  • Psychohistory's enfant terrible - Henry Ebel
  • Psykologstudent – bloggar
  • Psykologstudent.se
  • Rape, Abuse and Incest Network - RAINN
  • Set a New Direction
  • Signs of our time
  • Silber, Arthur: Essays Based on the Work of Alice Miller
  • Silber, Arthur: Once Upon a Time
  • Silber, Arthur: The Sacred Moment
  • Simple Living Network
  • StumbleUpon
  • Surviving a therapeutic cult
  • Swedish massage
  • Swedish National Institute of Public Health/Folkhälsoinstitutet
  • Swedish Television
  • Sylvan Tompson, psychologist
  • Syskontillmissbrukare – SiblingToAddict
  • The Children’s Ombudsman in Sweden
  • The Convention on the Rights of the Child
  • The Education of the Child by Ellen Key
  • The Emperor’s New Clothes/Kejsarens nya kläder
  • The focusing Institute
  • The Hitting Stops Here
  • The hitting stops here! by Oscar Flowe
  • The Political Consequences of Child Abuse by Alice Miller
  • The Swedish Ban on Corporal Punishment:: It's History and Effects
  • The United Nations Secretary General’s Study on Violence Against Children/FN:s studie över våld mot barn
  • The weather
  • To celebrate the 30th anniversary of the Swedish ban on corporal punishment
  • Travel and sing
  • Två världar (Two Worlds)
  • Villageblog
  • Wall of Tears – Book of Tears
  • Where my Steve was born

Snapdragon...

Snapdragon...
Click on the picture to read about the flower.

Childhood abuse and its consequences for the latter health (not least the somatic)...

  • "Attitudes Toward Spanking"- Survey: Spanking Endorsed by Sizeable Majority of Men and Women in the US
  • A higher risk of obesity for children neglected by parents
  • ACE-study
  • Alzheimer, Trauma, Repression
  • CDC-site
  • Child abuse and brain damage - letter to Alice Miller
  • Child abuse hurts the brain
  • Childhood Physical Abuse Linked To Arthritis, Study Finds
  • Children who are spanked have lower IQs, new research finds
  • Children's Ombudsman's blog
  • Chris’s Anti-Spanking Web Site
  • Corporal punishment
  • Different articles
  • Experts discuss lifelong impact of early childhood adversity
  • Exposure to family violence especially harmful to previously abused children
  • Faith betrayed
  • Growing Up With a Problem That Doesn’t Exist
  • Hypnosis and Health OUR BODY AND MIND IS ONE
  • Interview with Jack Shonkoff
  • Lecture at the annual meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, in February 2008
  • Neighborhood quality not a factor in effect of spanking
  • Parental physical discipline through childhood linked to behavior problems in teens
  • Plain talk about spanking – parents and teachers against violence in education
  • Powerpoint and diagrams
  • Professor Martin Teicher in an article in which he states 4 abnormalities that result from abuse in the first 4 years of a child’s life
  • Ross E. Cheit
  • Spanking - Questions and answers about disciplinary violence. New revised and expanded edition by Olivier Maurel
  • Spanking Questions and answers about disciplinary violence (new revised and expanded edition 2005) by Olivier Maurel, foreword by Alice Miller
  • THE KING OF PAIN Chapter 6 of Republican Gomorrah by Max Blumenthal, 2009, Nation Books, NY
  • The recovered memory project
  • To celebrate the 30th anniversary of the Swedish ban on corporal punishment
  • Verbal abuse hurts as much as sexual abuse
  • Verbal beatings hurt as much as sexual abuse. Can lead to depression, anxiety, and worse by William J. Cromie
  • WHAT ARE REPRESSED & RECOVERED MEMORIES?
  • What doesn't kill you makes you stronger: true or false? A discussion of the effects of child abuse by Sarah Eberhardt
  • “Surviving America’s Depression Epidemic – How to Find Morale, Energy, and Community in a World Gone Crazy” by Bruce E. Levine, PhD
  • ”How Childhood Trauma Can Cause Adult Obesity”

Childhood abuse and politics...

  • "Adolf Hitler: How Could a Monster Succeed in Blinding a Nation?" by Alice Miller
  • "Beyond Belief: Candles in the Dark" is the third in an annual series of conversations: an ongoing project to foster and promote the use of reason in formulating social policy..
  • "The Emotional Life of Nations" by Lloyd deMause Chapter 4--Restaging Early Traumas in War and Social Violence
  • "The Political Consequences of Child Abuse" by Alice Miller
  • "Twenty things you should know about corporate crime" (criminal behaviour comes from child abuse my addition) by Peter Rost
  • The Equality Trust
  • The Equility Trust blogs
  • When Liberals and Conservatives Are Two Sides of the Same Oppressive Coin by Bruce E. Levine
  • “Bush isn’t a Moron, He’s a Cunning Sociopath” by Bev Conover
  • “D.C. Shrink Diagnosis Bush as a Paranoid, Sadistic Megalomaniac”
  • “George W. Bush’s projection dislocation of self” by Terence O'Leary
  • “Leaders” by Bob Scharf
  • “See No Evil -- A political psychologist explains the roles denial, emotion and childhood punishment play in politics” Michael Milburn interviewed by Brian Braiker
  • “So George, how do you feel about your mom and dad?” by psychologist Oliver James
  • “The Madness of George W. Bush – A Reflection of Our Collective Psychosis” by Paul Levy

Alice Miller - Reader's Letters...

Alice Miller - Reader's Letters...
Click on the picture to go directly to "readers' mail" at her web site.

Links to sites on which psychiatry, therapy, and psychology are questioned and related issues...

  • About Cultic Groups – how to process experiences from them
  • Against Biologic Psychiatry by David Kaiser, M.D.
  • Cult Education Forum
  • Debunking (avslöjande) Primal Therapy
  • Group Conformity - Factors That Increase Group Conformity
  • Is Primal Therapy Really the Only Hope?
  • Jeffrey Schaler blog
  • Narcissistic Authoritarianism in Psychoanalysis
  • Outlaw psychiatry now!
  • Psych 101 Revisited
  • Psychdata - Dedicated to exposing the fraud of psychiatry
  • Social Power and Psychological Distress by David Smail
  • The Rick A. Ross Institute for the Study of Destructive Cults, Controversial Groups and Movements
  • The Success and Failure of Primal Therapy: A Critical Review By Stephen Khamsi, Ph.D.
  • The Szasz blog
  • Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism by Robert Jay Lifton
  • Verbal and Emotional Abuse in Psychotherapy

Cherry Bird

Cherry Bird
Taken at my work place May 12, 2008 with my mobile phone camera (click om the picture to read about Cherry Bird or hägg)

Links to sites about child rearing...

  • Child trends - research to improve children’s lives
  • Children Need Touching and Attention – Children Reflect the Treatment They Receive
  • Children Need Touching and Attention, Harvard Researchers Say (by Alvin Powell as contributing writer)
  • Du kan vara den ene (something like "you can be the important adult for a child", Norwegian site)
  • Harvard study decries “Cry it out”
  • Learning "good manners" - “Limitsetting from the child” by Alice Miller
  • Parents behaving badly
  • Peter Haiman PhD
  • The Children's ombudsman's blog
  • The Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment
  • The Origins for Peace and Violence –Deprivation of Physical Affection as a Main Cause of Depression, Aggression and Drug Abuse

Pippi - the rebel...

Pippi - the rebel...
Click on the picture to go to Astrid Lindgren site.

Books I am referring to on this blog:

  • Bosch, Ingeborg: "Rediscovering the True Self"
  • Freyd, Jennifer J.: "Betrayal Trauma - The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse" ISBN 0-647-06806-8
  • Jenson, Jean: "Reclaiming Your Life" ISBN 91-46-17409-5
  • Kirkengen, Anna Luise: "Hvordan krenkede barn blir syke voksne" ISBN 82-15-00713-9 ("How Abused Children Become Unhealthy Adults")
  • Kirkengen, Anna Luise: "Inscribed bodies - Health Impact of Childhood Sexual Abuse" ISBN 0-7923-7019-8
  • Lewis Herman, Judith: "Trauma and Recovery - From Domestic Violence to Political Terror" ISBN 086358430-6 (svensk översättning finns: ”Trauma och tillfrisknande” ISBN10: 9197263133, ISBN13: 9789197263139, Förlag: Göteborgs Psykoterapi Institut)
  • Miller, Alice: "Den dolda nyckeln" ISBN 91-46-15747-6 (The Untouched Key)
  • Miller, Alice: "Det självutplånande barnet och sökandet efter en äkta identitet" ISBN 91-7643-559-8 (The Drama of the Gifted Child)
  • Miller, Alice: "Du skall icke märka - variationer över paradistemat" ISBN 91-46-14374-2 (Thou Shalt Not Be Aware)
  • Miller, Alice: "Riv tigandets mur - sanning byggd på fakta" ISBN 91-46-16022-1 (Breaking Down the Wall of Silence)
  • Miller, Alice: "The Body Never Lies - The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting" ISBN 0-393-06065-9
  • Miller, Alice: "The Truth Will Set You Free - Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self" ISBN 0-465-04585-5
  • Miller, Alice: "Vägar i livet - sju berättelser" ISBN 91-46-17414-1 (Paths of Life - Seven Scenarios)
  • Pincus, Jonathan H.: "Base Instincts - What Makes Killers Kill?" ISBN 0-393-32323-4

Children baking...

Children baking...
Look, the joy in the children?? Enjoying what they are doing? (illustration from one of the books by Astrid Lindgren, click on the picture to go to her site).

Quotations:

  • “The playwright Henrik Ibsen used the phrase 'pillars of society' to refer to those people in positions of power who profit from the mendacity of the society they live in. I hope that those people who have recognized their own story and freed themselves from the lies of conventional morality [the fourth commandment] will be the pillars of a future society built on conscious awareness. Without the awareness of what happened to us at the outset of our lives, the entire fabric of our culture seems to me to be nothing other than a farce” (Alice Miller in The Body Never Lies).
  • “I write for the child in me” (Astrid Lindgren)
  • "...of all the many forms of child abuse, emotional abuse may be the cruelest and longest-lasting of all.” "Emotional abuse is the systematic diminishment of another. It may be intentional or subconscious (or both), but it is always a course of conduct, not a single event. It is designed to reduce a child's self-concept to the point where the victim considers himself unworthy—unworthy of respect, unworthy of friendship, unworthy of the natural birthright of all children: love and protection." (Andrew Vachss)
  • "A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong, gives it a superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom." -- "Common Sense", Thomas Paine, January 10, 1776
  • "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." (Scott Adams, cartoonist)
  • "For one is free from it [depression] only when self-esteem is based on the authenticity of one's own feelings and not on the possession of certain qualities." (Alice Miller, "The Drama of the Gifted Child - The Search for the True Self", 30th anniversary edition - revised and updated with a new afterward, Basic Books, 2007)
  • "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." -Martin Luther King Jr.
  • "Modern education is competitive, nationalistic and separative. It has trained the child to regard material values as of major importance, to believe that his nation is also of major importance and superior to other nations and peoples. The general level of world information is high but usually biased, influenced by national prejudices, serving to make us citizens of our nation but not of the world." (Albert Einstein)
  • "Normal men have killed perhaps 100,000,000 of their fellow men in the last fifty years... Given these and other conditions of contemporary civilization, how can one claim that the ‘normal’ man is sane?" (R.D. Laing, 1967)
  • "Organizations take on characteristics of the people running them./.../ There's always pressure within groups to conform, anyway. The top monkey exerts the most pressure." (Steve Thomas)
  • "Protecting the innocent is not a job for only the survivor. It is a job for all of us. As long as those who are directly charged with their care are abusing that trust, if the rest of us do not take on the job, these children are being sacrificed." (E. Sue Blume)
  • "She can’t make fun of (or scorn) other people’s feelings, of whatever sort they are, if she can take her own feelings seriously. She will not let the vicious circle of contempt continue." (Alice Miller in my amateur translation from Swedish).
  • "Use what talent you possess - the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best" (Henry van Dyke).
  • "We must renounce the lie that emotional abuse is good for children because it prepares them for a hard life in a tough world. I've met some individuals who were prepared for a hard life that way—I met them while they were doing life" (Andrew Vachss).
  • "What good fortune for those in power that people do not think" - Adolf Hitler, as quoted by Joachim Fest.
  • "When your self-concept has been shredded, when you have been deeply injured and made to feel the injury was all your fault, when you look for approval to those who can not or will not provide it—you play the role assigned to you by your abusers. It's time to stop playing that role" (Andrew Vachss).
  • "Yet many psychiatrists and psychologists refuse to entertain the idea that society as a whole may be lacking in sanity. They hold that the problem of mental health in a society is only that of the number of 'unadjusted' individuals, and not of a possible unadjustment of the culture itself." (Erich Fromm in The Sane Society, 1955)
  • When a big kid hits a little kid, we call it bullying. When an adult hits another adult, we call it assault. When the adults in a family hit each other we call it battering or domestic violence. When an adult hits a child we call it discipline..
  • “Blindness and lack of connectedness whether truly needed or not, are ultimately tragic solutions to life. These adaptations keep us from knowing ourselves and others fully. We end up fragmented both internally and externally – impoverished spiritually and socially /…/ it seriously constrains our human potential /…/ Survivors of childhood sexual abuse and betrayal blindness have learned to cope by being disconnected internally so as to manage a minimal kind of external connection. But with adult freedom and responsibility come the potential to break silence, to use voice and language to promote internal integration, deeper external connection, and a social transformation, Through communication – integration within ourselves and connection between individuals – we can become whole; embodied, aware, vital, powerful”(Jennifer Freyd in the chapter “Removing Blinders, Becoming Connected” in her book “Betrayal Trauma…”).
  • “Certainly, if I knew of some therapists who would be respectful enough to answer your questions; free enough to show indignation about what your parents have done to you; empathic enough when you need to release your rage pent up for decades in your body; wise enough to not preach to you forgetting, forgiveness, meditation, positive thinking; honest enough to not offer you empty words like spirituality, when they feel scared by your history, and that are not increasing your life-long feelings of guilt…” (Alice Miller).
  • “Feeling and understanding the causes of our old pain does not mean that the pain and the anger will stay with us forever. Quite the opposite is true. The felt anger and pain disappear with time and enable us to love our children. It is the UNFELT, avoided and denied pain, stored up in our bodies, that drive us to repeat what have been done to [and which gives us all sorts of troubles]." (Alice Miller in an answer to a reader’s letter May 24, 2008, relating to a talk between Andrew Vachss and Oprah Winfrey)
  • “If one uncritically cling to old methods' alleged infallibility and blames the client for failures, you inevitably land in the same fairways (waters) as the sect-guru, who also promises entire liberation. Such promises only produce self-destructive dependence which stands in the way for the individual’s liberation.” (Alice Miller in “Paths of Life” in my amateur translation from the Swedish edition of this book)
  • “If you are very strong you have to be very kind” (Pippi Longstocking)
  • “In psychiatry, too, what a person says and writes can’t be divorced from who he is and how he lives.” (Thomas Szasz).
  • “The method of Marshall Rosenberg is very nice and may be helpful to people who have not be[been??] severely mistreated in childhood. The latter ones however must find their pent up, LEGITIMATE rage and free themselves from the lies of our moral system. As long as they don't do this, their body will continue to scream for the truth with the help of symptoms" (Alice Miller)
  • “To desire and strive to be of some service to the world, to aim at doing something which shall really increase the happiness and welfare and virtue of mankind - this is a choice which is possible for all of us; and surely it is a good haven to sail for" (Henry van Dyke)
  • “‘I have never met a man,’ said Grandma Georgina, ‘who talks so much absolute nonsense!’ ‘A little nonsense now and then, is relished by the wisest men,’ Mr Wonka said.” (Roald Dahl)
  • “… Day after day, day after day, We stuck, nor breath nor motion; As idle as a painted ship Upon a painted ocean. Water, water, everywhere, And all the boards did shrink; Water, water, everywhere, Nor any drop to drink. …” from the Rhyme of the Ancient Mariner by the English poet Samuel Taylor Coleridge
  • “… The Mariner, whose eye is bright, Whose beard with age is hoar, Is gone : and now the Wedding-Guest Turned from the bridegroom's door. He went like one that hath been stunned, And is of sense forlorn : A sadder and a wiser man, He rose the morrow morn.”
  • ”In a democracy as ours we use words as arguments, not blows. We talk to people and don't beat them. If we can't convince our children with words we can never convince them with violence” (a politician in the debate preceding the ban on corporal punishment in Sweden 30 years ago)
  • ”Talk so much about that you are doing one thing, so that nobody notices you are doing the entirely opposite - or something [entirely] else.” (political devise American governments and more and more governments use according to Pierre Gilly)
  • ”To get to the source you have to swim against the current” (Stanislaw Jerzy Lec). “I wish there were more people not walking in step” (Owe Wikström).
  • ”…a problem many many young women have without being able to bringing it to the happy ending as you did. They 'love' the man who treats them the way they don't want to be treated, they do whatever they can to 'save' HIM (!!!), to help him to become the way they need to have him, they pity him, even if he shows sadism, they even marry him, get children and when he starts to beat the children or even them, they BEGIN to think about separation. But very rarely they made the connection between their suffering caused by their partner and the suffering they had to endure as the child of their own parents. If they do it they can save THEMSELVES.” (Alice Miller to a reader).

Emil - the disobedient child...

Emil - the disobedient child...
Look at his facial expression! Angrily carving… The stubborn, disobedient child... Or? How does he feel there in his joiner's workshop? (click on the picture to go to Astrid Lindgren site).

About the ACE-study:

"It's not just water under the bridge."

ACEs are surprisingly common among people of all social strata, and have far-reaching consequences. For many people, it's not possible to "just get over it".

What's an ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience i.e. "skadlig barndomserfarenhet")?

Adverse Childhood Experience is growing up experiencing any of the following conditions in the household prior to age 18:

1. Recurrent physical abuse

2. Recurrent emotional abuse

3. Contact sexual abuse

4. An alcohol and/or drug abuser in the household

5. An incarcerated household member

6. Someone who is chronically depressed, mentally ill, institutionalized, or suicidal

7. Mother is treated violently

8. One or no parents

9. Emotional or physical neglect

The wooden horse of Dalarna...

The wooden horse of Dalarna...
Click on the picture to read about dala-horses.

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  • F. Dostoevsky
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  • happiness
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  • Hildegard von Bingen
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  • homo ludens - Man the Player
  • honor killing
  • house spanking
  • how to obtain recovery/healing?
  • hubris
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  • human dignity
  • human relation movement
  • human rights.
  • human worth
  • humiliation
  • hyperactive children
  • Hypnotherapy
  • hypocrisy
  • hysteria
  • Håkan Hagegård
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  • idealization
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  • ignorance
  • illusions
  • impatience
  • imperfectness
  • impervious to realty
  • inborn character
  • incest
  • incongruence between different infrastructures
  • independency?
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  • individualism
  • individuality
  • inequality
  • inflammation
  • Ingmar Bergman
  • inherent traits
  • inheritance and milieu
  • innate vulnerability?
  • inner drives
  • inner-child work
  • insensitive/domineering mom
  • integration
  • integrity
  • integrity violations
  • intelligence/intellect
  • intention to annihilate
  • internet-habits
  • intuition
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  • irony
  • J. Cook
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  • J.-C. Guillebaud
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  • James Dobson
  • James Taylor
  • Jan Sandström - composer
  • Jane.
  • Jeffrey Masson
  • Jenny Westerstrand
  • Jesus Christ Superstar
  • Joachim Fest - historian
  • Joe Cocker
  • John Bowlby
  • John Cleese on S. Palin/G.W. Bush/B. Obama
  • John Cleese.
  • John Norcross
  • John Read
  • Jonathan Rottenberg
  • Jones and Nisbett
  • Joshua Bell
  • Judith Lewis Herman
  • Jungian therapy
  • Jürgen Bartsch
  • K. Popper
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  • kangaroo method
  • Karin Alvtegen
  • Kate Pickett
  • keeping silent of shame
  • keeping things in check and control
  • kept silent
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  • knowledge society
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  • L-E. Larsson
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  • la belle indifference
  • labeling
  • labor union blockades
  • lack of history
  • laestadianism
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  • language and voice
  • laughing babies-video
  • laughing things off
  • lavish tenderness/love/affection
  • law of attraction
  • leaders
  • learning the art of self-denial and self-control
  • left handed
  • Leonard Cohen
  • Lev Vygotsky
  • life as single
  • life lies
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  • limit setting
  • lobbying
  • logic thinking/feeling
  • loneliness/solitude
  • longer days
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  • longterm relations
  • longterm stress
  • lousy politics
  • lousy role-models
  • love - conditional
  • love - true
  • love.
  • low self-esteem
  • low status
  • loyalty
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  • lust
  • M-P Boëthius
  • M. Halldén
  • M. P. Leiter
  • M. Shermer
  • macho culture
  • made invisible
  • magical thinking
  • make-over mania
  • making life complicated
  • making mistakes
  • malign melanoma
  • Malin Eberhard-Gran - physician
  • Mamah Borthwick
  • manipulation
  • manliness culture
  • marasmus/inexplicable infant mortality
  • Margaret Singer
  • marital troubles
  • market fundamenatlism
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  • Marshall Rosenberg
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  • Martin Luther
  • masks
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  • Max Bruch
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  • meaningful critical thinking
  • media
  • medial dictatorship
  • meditation
  • megalomania
  • melancholia
  • Menninger clinic
  • mental manipulation
  • Michael Milburn
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  • Mike Oldfield
  • Miller FAQ-list
  • mindblindness
  • minimizing and belittling
  • mirroring a child
  • misinterpretations/misunderstandings
  • MKULTRA
  • mobbing
  • monsters
  • moral.
  • moralism
  • Moses
  • motivations/motives
  • motive forces
  • multiple relationships
  • music from Schindler's list
  • music of the spheres
  • music-video
  • Mustafa Can
  • mutuality
  • my favorite
  • myths
  • N. Chomsky
  • nanny-programs
  • narcissism
  • Narcissistic Authoritarianism in Psychoanalysis
  • narrating.
  • navel string
  • Nazism
  • needing validation
  • needs in general
  • neglect
  • neo cortex
  • neo-authoritarianism
  • neo-conservatism
  • neocortex
  • neoliberal attacks
  • neoliberalism
  • nerd/nörd
  • neuro-lingustic programming - NLP
  • New Age
  • Nikolas Rose
  • Nina Björk
  • NLP
  • Nobel Peace Prize
  • non-themes
  • nonsense talk
  • nonviolent communication
  • nordic walking
  • normality
  • Norwegian Directorate for Children
  • not blaming the parents
  • not feeling hunger signals
  • not minimizing and belittling
  • nourishment for the soul
  • numbing oneself
  • numbness
  • O. Wikström
  • obectivity
  • obedience
  • obedience culture
  • objective science?
  • objectivity
  • obliteration
  • oblivion
  • obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
  • Oliver James
  • Olivier Maurel
  • omission sin
  • oppression
  • Oprah
  • oral sexual abuse
  • orderliness and discipline
  • Orwell-society
  • our true nature
  • outlook on knowledge
  • outlook on life
  • outlook on man
  • over and under stimulation
  • over and under valuation of oneself
  • over-sensitiveness
  • over/binge eating
  • oxytocin
  • P Floyd
  • P. Bateman
  • P. Haiman
  • P. Krugman
  • paedophilia
  • pains in the stomach
  • pair therapy
  • panic disorders
  • paradoxes
  • paralysis
  • paranoia - the ruling classes'
  • paranoia.
  • parent's rights contra children's.
  • parental rights
  • partnership
  • passivity
  • Paths of Life
  • patience
  • patriarchy
  • patricide
  • patronizing style
  • Paula Flowe
  • Peaceful Easy Feeling
  • Pearl Oliner
  • pedodontics
  • percussion instruments
  • perfectionism
  • performance anxiety
  • personality disorder.
  • pervasive refusal syndrome
  • perversions/perverted needs
  • perversions/perverted needs and the results of them
  • Pesso therapy
  • Peter Haiman
  • Peter Währborg
  • Phantom of the Opera
  • pharmaceutical companies
  • phenomenology
  • Philip Whang
  • physical abuse/spanking
  • physical contra emotional/mental abuse
  • physical/emotional/sexual abuse
  • Pia Mellody
  • Pierre Janet
  • Pink Floyd
  • Pippi Longstocking
  • played out against each other
  • poisonous pedagogy
  • polarization
  • political consequences of childabuse
  • polymyalgia rheumatica
  • porn-surfing and sex-chatting
  • positive thinking
  • poverty
  • power abuse
  • power abuse - abuse committed by "stronger"
  • power centres
  • power elite
  • power exercise
  • power hunger
  • power imbalance
  • power misuse
  • power needs
  • power of definition/definitionsmakt
  • powerlessness
  • practician
  • predilection for violence as the solution to different problems
  • prejudice
  • preventive measures
  • PRI therapy
  • primal therapy
  • Primary defence
  • Pro-War Personality Disorder
  • problems facing the truth
  • problems with reality testing
  • Procrustes bed
  • profits interests
  • progress or retrogression
  • projections
  • promoting ourselves
  • propaganda
  • prostitution
  • protecting oneself constructively
  • protection
  • provoking/being a provoker (in what manner?)
  • psychedelic
  • psychiatry
  • psychic health/ill-health
  • psychich breakdown
  • psychological trauma
  • psychopathy
  • psychosocial environment
  • PTSD
  • pubertal crisis
  • punishing oneself
  • punishing other people (scapegoating)
  • Put People First
  • putting children in the corner
  • putting the student in the center
  • qigong
  • questioning
  • quick fixes
  • R. D. Laing
  • R. Dawkins
  • raising ones voice
  • rationality
  • real/geuine freedom
  • realistic descriptions
  • reality/humiliation-TV
  • rebellion
  • reciprocity/ömsesidighet
  • reconciliation/forgiveness
  • Reddesmå.no
  • reductionism
  • reenacting
  • Reggio Emilia
  • Regression therapy
  • rehabilitation
  • rejection of any kind of introspection
  • rejection/hatred/cruelty
  • relationships.
  • relativism
  • relaxation
  • religion
  • religious beliefs
  • reliving the panic
  • removing blinders - becoming connected
  • Requiem by Mozart
  • rescuing another person
  • resisiting
  • resistance
  • respect
  • respect/disrespect
  • respectfully touching
  • responsibility
  • responsible taking/being irresponsible
  • revenge
  • revictimization
  • rewriting your history
  • rheumatoid arthritis
  • Richard Grossman
  • Richard Wilkinson
  • right-populists
  • right/left brain
  • rising like Phoenix from the ashes
  • Roald Dahl
  • Robert Jay Lifton
  • Rod Stewart
  • Rosen therapy
  • rosy upbringing?
  • RTO - The really terrible orchestra
  • ryan report
  • S. Ferenczi
  • S. O'Connor
  • S. Prokofiev
  • S. Rachmaninoff
  • sadism
  • sado-masochism
  • sadomasochism
  • Sailing
  • Sam Turton
  • Samuel Oliner
  • Sarah Brightman
  • savior needs
  • scapegoats
  • Scheherazade by Rimsky-Korsakov
  • schizophrenia
  • school politics
  • scientific honesty
  • Seacrow island/Saltkråkan
  • secterism
  • secularity
  • security-sickness
  • seeig as wrong
  • self deception
  • self image
  • self-absorbed
  • self-centeredness
  • self-control.
  • self-criticism
  • self-destructiveness
  • self-effacing
  • self-examination
  • self-help books
  • self-justification
  • selfishness
  • sensation/sinnesintryck
  • serfdom
  • serial killers
  • seriousness
  • setting good examples
  • sex.
  • sexes
  • sexual abuse in adult-life and childhood
  • sexual abuse in therapy
  • sexual abuse of children
  • sexual abuse.
  • sexual emancipation
  • shame
  • shock therapy
  • shunning
  • shyness
  • side tracks
  • silencing factors
  • Silent Night
  • Simón Bolívar National Youth Orchestra
  • Sisyphus
  • Skalman
  • sleeping problems
  • slide-show on photos
  • smoking
  • sneezing
  • snobbishness
  • SOC/KASAM
  • social dilution
  • social evils
  • social mobility
  • social skills
  • societal approval
  • societal backlash
  • sociology
  • solidarity
  • soul murdering
  • spanking children
  • spanking history
  • spanking of children
  • spanking servants
  • spanking wives
  • speed
  • spin doctors
  • spirit of the time
  • spirituality
  • spoiling a child
  • spontaneity
  • spring
  • SQ-Social intelligence
  • Stabat Mater by Pergolesi
  • stage fright
  • staging the abuse through exercising power
  • Stalin
  • status - high and low
  • steel bath in economy- results
  • stigma
  • Sting
  • stock brokers
  • Stranger of the Shore
  • strength
  • stress
  • stress and the new ill health
  • stressors
  • struggles
  • subjectivity
  • subjugation/underkuvande
  • submission/surrender
  • suborder
  • substitutes
  • subtle abuse
  • success
  • super human being
  • superclass
  • superior norm
  • superiority or inferiority
  • support
  • supposed genetic causes
  • suppression and the consequences hereof
  • surrogates
  • survival of the fittest
  • symbolic aspects
  • symbolic for the patient's life situation
  • symbolising
  • sympathetic nervous system
  • synergy effects
  • T. Szasz
  • T.Videgård
  • tadpole philosophy
  • taking a break
  • Tavistock clinic
  • tea parties
  • teachers' training/educaton
  • teamwork/cooperation
  • ten balls in the air (at least)
  • terrorising the environment
  • terrorism
  • the ACE-pyramid
  • the american dream
  • the Apostle Paul
  • the brain
  • the child has hundred "languages"
  • the child's rights
  • the consequences of child abuse
  • the Convention on the Rights of the Child
  • the emperor's new clothes
  • the first posting
  • the focus on pathology
  • the fourth commandment
  • the Golden Rule
  • the Holocaust
  • the honey trap
  • the honor of being human
  • the joy of living?
  • the kiss
  • the Lamplighters
  • the music arena Dalhalla
  • the national agency for education in Sweden
  • the National Dance Company of Ireland
  • the nature
  • the need for control.
  • the need for power
  • the need for power and control
  • the net
  • the power of creating
  • the power of music
  • the power of narrating
  • The Price for 'progress development' and 'prosperity'
  • the problem without name
  • the problematic idea about "safe places"
  • the psycholgy profession
  • the reactionary hardened
  • the roots of violence
  • the roots to misunderstandings/misinterpretations
  • the rythm of the dance
  • the school in Sweden
  • The Social Animal
  • the strong ones rights/the weak ones duties
  • the swan by Saint-Saëns
  • the Swedish ban on corporal punishment
  • the Swedish National Institute of Public Health
  • The Tao of Pooh and B. Hoff
  • the thought power of love?
  • the trap of success
  • the Vikings
  • the vulnerable human being
  • the white rose/Scholl siblings
  • therapists in training
  • therapy abuse
  • therapy resistence
  • Thomas Johansson
  • three wise monkeys?
  • throwing suspicions on common solutions
  • time-out
  • to objectify
  • to sacrifice
  • Tor Erling Staff
  • torture
  • totalitarianism
  • traditional moral in psychology/psychiatry
  • traditional moral in therapy
  • traditional morality
  • transferences
  • trauma and the brain
  • trauma psychology
  • triumph of unreason
  • trolls
  • true/genuine self
  • Ture Ålander - General Practitioner
  • tyranny
  • Ulf Lundberg
  • unconditional
  • unconscious and conscious manipulation
  • under the influence of alcohol
  • understanding
  • undesired behavior
  • unfulfilled early needs
  • unite rather split
  • unprocessed trauma
  • unsentimental education
  • uprising
  • USA-trip
  • usury
  • utopia
  • V.J. Felitti
  • vacation
  • Vachss confronts Oprah
  • veness.
  • verbal abuse
  • victim-feelings
  • video on mobile tricks
  • video on the sketch 'Spik i foten'
  • video with Dennis Kucinich from Ohio
  • video with George Galloway
  • videos with Andrew Vachss
  • view on man
  • violations - what's that?
  • violence in young people - roots?
  • violence/violations
  • Visa från Utanmyra
  • Vladimir Horowitz
  • vocabulary/grammar/syntax
  • W. Reich
  • W.A. Mozart
  • Walls of Silence
  • walpurgis eve
  • War Personality Disorder
  • war veterans
  • warnography
  • we-feeling
  • weak democracy
  • Western and Eastern religions sinfulness
  • whistle blower
  • willful blindness
  • winter darkness
  • wishing hard
  • witch-hunt
  • witches
  • word of Life
  • words - how to use them
  • work-life
  • workaholic
  • working with young people
  • WWI
  • xenophobia
  • You've Got A Friend
  • Your song (Elton John)
  • Youth and Family Affairs
  • Z. Bauman
  • zombie

The javablue award

The javablue award

Me on Mallorca spring 1997...

Me on Mallorca spring 1997...
I don't like being photographed, and don't have many photos of myself but here are some, though fairly old! Click on the picture to see two more pictures.

About me...

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I was born in Umeå in Västerbotten, Sweden, and moved during childhood stepwise to Skåne in the south, and at last back to just below the middle of Sweden where I still live. I am educated both as piano-pedagogue and church-musician and have a full time employment as piano-pedagogue. Church-music is side work. I am interested in a lot of things and will blog about things I read, psychology, society, history, nature, my work too hopefully, and my everyday life… And both in Swedish and English.
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Critical thinking

This is a blog, with my (sometimes very) personal - and loud reflections on what I read, see, hear, react on, feel for - and not feel for and want to explore. I don't work in this field at all, but I have my reflections and thoughts nevertheless and have read fairly a lot I think, and here I reflect upon all this. I am searching myself forward.
I link sites for information, if one want to know more about what I am talking/writing about and what is mentioned in the texts I am citing and referring to. And I link sites not least for my own sake.
So it isn’t sure I agree with all that is linked on this blog, that's not why I link sites. I can agree with parts of what is linked, bigger or smaller, from almost everything to almost nothing.

I hope those who perhaps find my blog are reading everything here critically - including what stands in what I link.


And when it comes to therapy and all (self)help-concepts I think one shall be very careful. Maybe as a friend said it:

“Meaningful critical thinking.

Psychotherapists have been claiming that they have invented better treatment methods since Sigmund Freud in 1897. The amount of psychological distress in the world hasn’t become less. There’s money to be made from attracting more clients, whether the therapy works or not.

Meaningful critical thinking:

  • For every therapy method look for research into its effectiveness. Make sure the research is genuinely independent.
  • Has anyone suffered a bad experience with the therapy? [use Google]
  • What is the background and experience of the therapists?
  • Just because a therapist gives a good explanation of the causes of psychological distress is no guarantee that his/her therapy is good also.”

Also see Miller’s FAQ-list “How to Find the Right Therapist.”

Questions that can give one ideas about what to ask.

A dissertation on"Critical Thinking in Scholarship - Meanings, Conditions and Development" by Eva Brodin.

Learning Swedish...

  • "The fact that all these comments are made in English...", "As a former resident of Sweden ( 25 years go), I still regularly visit the Swedish news sites and teach Swedish as an extra-curricular activity to a dozen or more teenagers at our local high school. They love it! A beautiful language!", "I can only support the view that Swedish is extremely beautiful, it is chic. I have started studying it, listen to P3 Musik, Metropol via www.sr.se, and purchased 2 sets of Teach Yourself from Amazon.com. The hard thing is to communicate with Swedes... they are not very talkative... :)","I have been in Sweden 5 months as an exchange Student.. I just have to say I loved it! Don't say it's nor worth it! It REALLY is! I miss it SO much! I can't wait to go back there. The language has something special that other languages don't have.. and trust me, I speak 3 languages and hopefully I'll learn one more this year. Keep learning Swedish! It's one of the most beautiful people I have had the opportunity to get in contact with!"
  • Björn Engdahl's Swedish course
  • Is it cool to speak Swedish?
  • Learn Swedish online
  • Lexin animation themes
  • Lexin dialogue themes
  • Lexin Picture themes
  • Lexin Swedish - English Dictionary
  • Norstedt's Swedish English dictionary
  • Nya mål 1 och 2 – CD (New Goals – CD)
  • Nya mål 1 och 2 – lärobok (New Goals 1 and 2 – textbook)
  • Nya mål 1 och 2 – övningsbok (New Goals 1 and 2 – exercise book)
  • Safir – Swedish and working life for immigrants/Svenska och arbetsliv för invandrare
  • Swedish - a brief presentation
  • Swedish language resource
  • Ö. Latin for all - beginner's level

Norwegian-Danish-Swedish dictionary

  • Norsk-dansk-svensk ordlista
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