Some evening thoughts….
Balancing high demands and a sort of perfectionism with spontaneity and not doing everything absolutely perfectly?
Doesn’t exclude I can get blushing red…
During my whole working life I have tried to adapt to the environment in a way… No, in many or maybe all ways? Or rather tried to satisfy all and everyone?
This hasn’t been a good solution…
Research about exhaustion and burn out has shown that the more empathic are more prone to exhaustion…
"It's not just water under the bridge."
ACEs are surprisingly common among people of all social strata, and have far-reaching consequences. For many people, it's not possible to "just get over it".
What's an ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience i.e. "skadlig barndomserfarenhet")?
Adverse Childhood Experience is growing up experiencing any of the following conditions in the household prior to age 18:
1. Recurrent physical abuse
2. Recurrent emotional abuse
3. Contact sexual abuse
4. An alcohol and/or drug abuser in the household
5. An incarcerated household member
6. Someone who is chronically depressed, mentally ill, institutionalized, or suicidal
7. Mother is treated violently
8. One or no parents
9. Emotional or physical neglect
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This is a blog, with my (sometimes very) personal - and loud reflections on what I read, see, hear, react on, feel for - and not feel for and want to explore. I don't work in this field at all, but I have my reflections and thoughts nevertheless and have read fairly a lot I think, and here I reflect upon all this. I am searching myself forward.
I link sites for information, if one want to know more about what I am talking/writing about and what is mentioned in the texts I am citing and referring to. And I link sites not least for my own sake. So it isn’t sure I agree with all that is linked on this blog, that's not why I link sites. I can agree with parts of what is linked, bigger or smaller, from almost everything to almost nothing.
And when it comes to therapy and all (self)help-concepts I think one shall be very careful. Maybe as a friend said it:
“Meaningful critical thinking.
Psychotherapists have been claiming that they have invented better treatment methods since Sigmund Freud in 1897. The amount of psychological distress in the world hasn’t become less. There’s money to be made from attracting more clients, whether the therapy works or not.
Also see Miller’s FAQ-list “How to Find the Right Therapist.”
Questions that can give one ideas about what to ask.
A dissertation on"Critical Thinking in Scholarship - Meanings, Conditions and Development" by Eva Brodin.
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3 kommentarer:
Intressant! Alltså att mer empatiska människor lättare bränner ut sig! Vad är det för forskning du har läst, skulle också vilja kolla...
Jag känner iofs några rätt oempatiska människor som också lyckats bränna ut sig, men den generella trenden är säkert att det finns ett samband mellan empatiförmåga och utbrändhet. För man är ju mycket mer i ett utpressningsläge om man bryr sig om "tredje man" som blir drabbade t.ex.
Jo, jag funderade också på var jag läst detta... Jag har en massa böcker om just dessa saker i min bokhylla.
Jo, jag funderar också över detta; om det ska måsta vara så? Om att bry sig om andra måste utesluta att man bryr sig om sig själv och kanske vice versa också? Dvs. om man bryr sig om andra att man inte bryr sig om andra...
Jag kanske kollar upp detta så småningom, var det står.
Kan det vara Peter Währborg eller en bok av Ulf Lundberg och Görel Wentz?
PS. Jag menar förstås att det att bry sig om andra inte borde utesluta att man bryr sig om sig själv!! :-)
Skriver ganska spontant och snbbt här i kanske allt jag skriver... Med allt vad det innebär. Pust!
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